October 2025

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah,

What we have witnessed in Al-Fashir, Sudan the massacre of innocent women, children and civilians by the secular Arab supremacist militias driven by tribal and racial hatred with estimates of the death toll exceding 2500 as of now is not a distant isolated tragedy. It’s a reflection of one of the greatest spiritual diseases of our Ummah: Asabiyyah (Tribalism, Racism and Nationalism).

The scholars define Asabiyyah as to side with one’s people in falsehood, or to boast of one’s lineage as if it grants superiority. It is the disease that blinds the heart to justice and poisons the soul with arrogance. The Prophet condemened Asabiyyah and said:

Whoever fights under the banner of Asabiyyah, becoming angry for Asabiyyah, or calling to it, or supporting it, and is killed, then he dies the death of ignorance (Jahiliyyah).
— Sahih Muslim (1850)

When some Quraysh boasted of their noble ancestry, the Prophet PBUH said: “Tell them to bite their father’s male organ, and do not use a euphemism.” (Musnad Aḥmad 5/343; ***al-***Silsilah al-sahihah no. 1355). This Hadith was not vulgarity but a command to crush the arrogance of lineage. Today, this same arrogance appears in new forms: we hear men boast of their “great nation,” their “pure tribe,” or silly trivial things such as “pure genes” that makes them sound like Nazis without utter shame. The Prophet reminds us *“*Allah does not look at your forms or your lineage, but at your hearts and deeds.” When Muslims replace Taqwa and humlity with tribal and nationalist banners, they trade the honor of Islam for the dust of ignorance and arrogance.

We may not even realise sometimes that we face the disease of Asabiyyah in it´s microdose forms such as when we use people´s demonyms as slurs, something very common in the Gulf where phrases such as ¨Ya Hindi¨ are used to demean people and weaponized or to rile up to take one´s side. A prophetic example of such form of Asabiyyah is the instance of a arguement between a Immigrant (Muhajir) and a helper (Ansari) where they started calling the slogans of ¨Ya Muhajirun¨ and ¨Ya Ansar¨, which was noticed by the Prophet and he exclaimed “Leave it (ʿasabiyyah), for it is rotten (filthy)!” Sahih al-Bukhari (4905), Sahih Muslim (2584).

Much of the current state of the Muslim Ummah comes from the devasting impacts of Asabiyyah (Nationalism, Racism and Tribalism) and can be evidenced by the words of Umar RA who said “We were the most humiliated people on earth, and Allah gave us honour through Islam. If we seek honour through anything else, Allah will humiliate us again.” The great Tabiʿ al-Tabiʿīn scholar Sufyan Al-Thawri said “Whoever calls to Asabiyyah, Allah will make his disgrace in both worlds.” Al-Bayhaqī, Shuʿab al-Īmān (6/293). He further went on to say “Beware of Asabiyyah, for it was the rope of Shaytan by which nations before you were strangled.”

The scholars of the Salaf such as Sheikh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (Rahimahumullah) writes on this “The believers are one nation. Whosoever calls to nationalism, lineage, or allegiance other than to Islam and the Sunnah is among the callers to Hell.” Iqtidha Sirat-al-Mustaqim (1/157*).* and further writing “The believers are one nation, distinct from others. The foundation of their alliance and enmity is religion, not lineage or homeland.”
(Majmu‘ al-Fatawa, 28/208) Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim (Rahimullah) mentions that “From the signs of the disease of the heart is showing partisanship for a group, loving them due to their lineage or tribe, and hating others for that, even if they are upon the truth.”Iʿlām al-Muwaqqiʿīn (1/84)

The call to Nationalism and patriotism is a great disease that the Ummah faces and we must strive in the way of Allah to extinguish this call to the fire of hell-fire. In response to the many Muslims who argue that nationalism for their nations is a way of preserving their Islamic idenities,the contemporary seniors scholars of the Ummah such as Sheikh Ibn Baz (Rahimahullah) said that “This call [to nationalism] is ignorance and it is not to ascribe oneself to it, nor to encourage those who call to it. … Islam necessitates the view that calling to Arab nationalism or any other kind of nationalism is a false message and a great error, and a clear abomination, loathsome ignorance, and a plot against Islam and its people.”

Sheikh Ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahum Allah) said in regards to the issue of fighting in the name of defending one´s national identity “The fighting mentioned in the Qur’an … is the one qualified with “in the path of Allāh”. However, fighting for nationhood, nationalism, national pride and passion … all of that is futile … The scholars upon the Sunnah warn from tribalism and nationalism, because they are a path to defeat and humiliation.”

Shaykh Salih al-Fawzan (rahimahullah) in his Fatwa on nationalism said “If a person elevates his country, tribe, or nation above Islam, then he has made it an idol in his heart, which is forbidden and leads to the corruption of the Ummah”

As we reflect upon the horrors in Al-Fashir and the countless other tragedies born of tribalism and racial arrogance across Islamic history, we must look within ourselves and our communities. How often do we allow pride of lineage, nationality, or tribe to cloud our judgment, to diminish the rights of others, or to blind us to injustice?

Let us not allow the blood of our innocent brothers and sisters in Al‑Fashir to be shed in vain. Let it awaken our hearts and compel us to fight, truly fight, in the way of Allah, not with slogans or performative outrage, but by uprooting the sickness of the heart: hatred, resentment, contempt and arrogance. Let us pledge to forgo those feelings, to leave the ways of ignorance (Jahiliyyah), and to rebuild our communities on love, mercy and taqa. Let us honour the memory of the innocent women and children who were killed mercilessly by returning to the path of Islam and the ways of our righteous predecessors and be the a light of brotherhood and mercy to mankind.

And never think that Allah is unaware of what the wrongdoers do. He only delays them for a Day when eyes will stare [in horror]. (14:42)

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In the loving memory of the innocent women, children and civilians who were killed by the oppressors. May Allah forgive them and grant them highest ranks of paradise, Ameen.

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assalamu alaykum, i’m a muslim brother. i’d like advice. i’ve been praying all 5 of my salaahs and more, but there’s a sin i’ve been struggling with to escape and it’s been holding me down for some months now and i’ve just taken note to it that it’s affected my life drastically, i pray everyday with intention but i love this girl so much that i wanted to make it halal but due to us being “young” she said no and her own reasons of what she has seen happen to young marriages. please help me out

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Assalamualaikum. I started a new job a month ago. I was praying in a semi-public (though typically empty) lobby of the building. One day, a member of staff saw me praying there. The next day, the head of HR requested that I pray in the typically empty CEOs office and close the door. Their tone conveyed I am not safe to be seen praying at my work. Further, it feels unsafe for me to be alone in such a place two-to-four times a day. I have gradually been missing prayers since this conversation. Starting next week I will have three prayers during my shift. Legally, I have to take my lunch break before Asr comes in. Finding a new job is not an option for at least a year, due to personal reasons. Your advice is greatly welcome.

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Hadith rejection, disguised as skepticism, has become way too normal in mainstream Islam. People act like just because Hadiths aren’t the Qur’an ,and were preserved by men, not written by God directly ,that means they’re automatically full of holes.

It goes like this: “They’re not divine → so they can contain error → so they probably do → so I don’t have to accept them.”

What they’re really doing is building a loophole. But here’s the issue ,Islam doesn’t function without Hadiths. People forget that. If you take Hadiths away, you remove the entire practical framework of the religion. What’s left is the Qur’an on its own, without implementation ,and that turns it into something abstract. Something idealistic. Something you interpret instead of something you live.

Hadith is to Qur’an what fuel is to an engine. Without it, you’re not moving. You’re not actually practicing Islam ,you’re theorizing it. And that’s exactly what happened to Christianity: a lot of belief, no blueprint. A moral code that became metaphor instead of action.

So no ,I don’t believe you can be a Muslim while being skeptical of Hadiths. That mindset isn’t about accuracy. It’s not about integrity. It’s just soft rejection dressed up as intellectual caution. The whole “they were written 200 years later” argument sounds smart, but it’s not driven by concern ,it’s driven by doubt.

The truth is, there will never be 100% scientific proof for Hadiths. And that’s fine. Faith isn’t meant to be dissected like a math formula. Part of belief is trusting in what was preserved, not just what was proven. And if God didn’t want the Hadiths to survive, He would’ve erased them ,the same way He wiped out corrupted scripture before delivering the final revelation.

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Hey guys, check this live from Br.Lybiano and Br.DeenRespond about whats the Injeel and Inter-text play between the Quran and the gospels of the bible. This can really help you and actually boost your Imaan because it proves that the Author of the quran is EXTREMELY knowledgeable about the content of the Injeel and the 4 gospels, which is impossible for Rasul'Allah SAW to know.

Note : They use some real scholarly content, either islamic scholarship and biblical scholarship, so its all serious thing.

https://www.youtube.com/live/EIqxNb-NmLM?si=QZCtWxzubYfDxS0m

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Assalamualaikum, i just wanted to know more about this topic I've been doing like 3000-7000 astaghfirullah throughout the day and it really helped me from my addictions and negtive thoughts and ungratefullness and made me consistent in prayers so it helped alot generally in different areas of life and spiritually as well....... During thi period, one day i just felt extreme happiness like euphoria and love for Allah without any reason i mean unconditional love, (at that time i was walking somewhere and constantly saying astaghfirullah)and that feeling was so intense, i got tears in my eyes...... And a few times i notice when i was traveling and i had alot of spare time so i did much dhikr of astaghfirullah than usual days like exceeding 10k and some of those days i felt fever like my body got very hot felt very heavy and it happend like more than twice when i did much more dhikr ...... This exact fever things happen when i think negatively or get ungrateful to Allah also when i try to get close to my addictions again but constantly doing this dhikr simultaneously (out of habit now)........ so my question is if im doing anything Wrong what should i do to improve this and be more connected to Allah and less attached to nafs.... ..... and i really wanted to know about dhikr e qalb I've heard its the next stage of dhikr after you pass through this dhikr e lasani(which i guess I'm currently doing, please correct me).....

Please answer my questions if you have some answers for this will be very helpful ......

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I don't know if it's the right place to post this but, I'm broken. I don't know what to do. I feel like a failure..

A lot hs happened in my life coming from a emotionally unavailable and unsupported family. I used to have very sharp brain, I had photogenic memory. And now I struggle with everything.

I was a freelancer making good money, in my family and extended family I was the only one doing this. And then I lost interest, I started dreading it. And then someone in my family (a very close relative) started tarnishing my reputation, spread disgusting rumours about me.

And then I fell into the pits of depression I stopped working all together. Prayed for ending my misery, and wasted years.

Now I'm trying to make career change and I have lost it all. I can't remember anything, I don't get anything done. I don't think I can do it. I have chosen Data analysis as a career and I'm learning all these coding languages but feels like I'm failing, wasting so much time and achieving nothing. I am broke and I don't know when will I get a job or be job ready.

I don't know what to do I'm not a very religious person, because I have been let down by so many people and I don't get what I pray for. Right now I don't want anything except for how my brain used to be and I'm just helpless here.

I don't know what it is, if its nazar or what but I just want a way out.

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Assalamualaikum everyone

I just want to rant for a while and i might delete this later since it’s not really my thing to post my problems publicly but i just want to release some of the heaviness i’ve been feeling lately. I think Allah (swt) is testing me through my brother in law. For context, i posted here before (but deleted it) about my atheist brother-in-law who keeps criticizing me about my religion and hijab. Even though i’ve explained the purpose of wearing the hijab in my religion (i’m a revert btw) and asked him to respect my decision. I’m tired of explaining the same thing over and over.

The good thing is I live thousands of miles away from them so we only talk via FaceTime. I really love my family so i am trying my best to stay steadfast, respect them, have a lot of patience, and widen my understanding of them. I know how to deal with my family but sometimes i get exhausted from repeating the same explanations during video calls.

At the same time i don’t want this to be a reason for me to distance myself from my sister and i don’t want to be the reason for conflicts in the family. I keep making dua to Allah (swt) to guide them, open their hearts and minds, and lead them to the right path so that we can be together in jannah inshallah . I trust Allah (swt) completely that he can turn every impossible situation into something possible.

Please make dua for me and for my brother in law 🤲🤲🤲

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Hello, I was raised Christian but never really connected with it and I always just practiced prayer and worship in my own way. My partner studied religion in college and we often talk about our beliefs and he tells me a lot of things I say align with Islam. I have always felt strangely pulled toward the religion even though I know nothing about it and have felt shame for not making the effort to learn. My finances are limited so I am wondering if there are any books on kindle or libby that anyone can recommend. It would be much appreciated.

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Hello,

I made Isrikhara dua about a surgery, and I call in today to schedule an appointment for next week and I am told that the only available day is today. I cannot do today because of school reasons, does that mean the surgery is not good for me? Should I call again and schedule for another time? Please help I’m so confused and feel uneasy.

Thank you

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so i’ve recently become friends with another muslim which is rare in my area as i live in a predominantly white city.

i’ve noticed that in some conversations it’s been mentioned that she’ll eat mcdonald’s or kfc or things like that and in my country the chicken and meat they serve isn’t halal. i made her aware of this incase she didn’t know but she had just told me that “its fine” and “everyone does it”. - as in she thinks it’s halal or just doesn’t follow that rule.

anyways my dilemma:an event is coming up and she’ll be serving food that she’s making herself and i’m scared coz i know if she doesn’t mind eating out of haram restaurants then the food she could be serving might also be haram but i heard the rule is to not question if you’re eating at another muslim persons house

i’m really stuck on what to do, what do you guys think?

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السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I'm a high school student and I'm a native Arabic speaker, I enjoy Islamic history and know quite a lot about it. I have this feeling that I want to help build an Islamic society, I can't describe it exactly but I want to do something to benefit Islam and muslims. I thought of telling kids in my school about islamic characters and manners but I don't get to talk to them a lot, do you have any ideas I can help? I thought of teaching Arabic to foreign muslims too

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Why did Allah create me ,He is all wise and all knowing but why create me,not man kind just me!I didn’t ask to be here going through all this trauma and suffering ,I can’t quit because it will be punished by hell fire.I am praying not regularly but praying but I still feel this painful life is not worth any reward I rather not exist no hell no heaven and no duniya.

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Long story short:

I came to U.S when I was very Little with my parent. My immigration paperwork never seemed to ever pan out to anything and I think it reached it's final straw. Everyone else in my family has received there green card. I am the only one who hasn't and nothing else left to be done.

I have been struggling with mental illness my whole life and never got help for it. I been suicidal for as long as I can remember, but kept going hoping it would get better. It has constantly affected my decisions

My youth got wasted and I never amounted to anything.

I held on to many aspects of this faith while constantly bieng told to break those rules because "thats just how life is", yet I am the one whose life has turned out to be a complete mess.

My family members have openly done haram acts and they are doing well now.

At what point do I NOT believe that Allah hates me?

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Hello everyone. I started talking to this guy we both have intentions for marriage. Things were great in the beginning but now it has been 7 days with no contact with him. I have texted and he hasn't replied. Things feel different with him even in this time of separation, i feel like he's the one and i should wait, but how long is too long?? He's done this once before but we didn't talk for about 4-5 days and when he came back he said he had family issues that he didn't want to bring me into, and i respect that, but he just keep leaving me in the dark and not saying anything. Should і keep waiting? When he stopped talking to me we were still good, he just stopped talking to me. lok what to do. I feel like maybe Allah is punishing me or something idk. I feel really strongly about him and i really want it to work but it's been a week... maybe he really does just need the time but he could’ve told me

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I sometimes get whispers like quite islam, hearing slang language, worship some entity, you lost your iman, etc etc.... This made me crazy and fearful. It started to happen from ~12 days ago, as I have to go to work on that day when many idols are going to be submerged in the river. As I go pass a specific idol something in my head tell me to worship, i immediately recite 'A'uzu billahi minash shaitanir rajim' and Surah Al-Ikhlas I also spit in the left side 3times. After returning home i asked my mother to do Ruqyah and give water to drink. Still some times i hear them. Do i some how weaken my iman?

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Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,

I just wanted to open my heart here for a moment. Maybe someone will read this and quietly make dua or share a few kind words.

Life has been very heavy lately. After a sudden turn of events, I found myself surrounded by debts and worries. I have no stable home or savings, and I am trying my best to take care of my small children with very limited means.

Every day feels like a test. Bills and rent keep coming. My wife is unwell, but I cannot afford proper treatment. I work whenever I can, yet it never feels enough. Out of shyness, I cannot openly ask anyone for help.

Still, I keep holding onto Allah. During Tahajjud, I talk to Him with tears. I recite Durood, make Istighfar, and ask for strength to stay patient. Even when my heart feels weak, I know He is near.

If you are reading this, pls remember me in your dua. Any gentle advice or words of comfort mean more than you can imagine.

JazakAllah khair for taking the time to read this. May Allah ease every burden, heal every pain, and replace every worry with peace and barakah. Ameen

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Asalam aleikum. I’m a relatively new convert who has some questions about the sunnah of our prophet, peace and blessing of Allah swt upon him.

I have been informed that the reason so many Muslim men wear a long beard is that it is of the sunnah of our Prophet saw. I recall reading a description of the Prophet saw which describes his hair as shoulder length. Is there a reason why Muslim men do not generally wear their hair long, considering this is also sunnah?

Perhaps it’s cultural, but most of the Muslim men in my area have closely cropped hair. I realize there is nothing impermissible about cutting the hair, but why then is cutting the beard frowned upon?

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Assalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

Just as the title say that's what's I am feeling. I am too tired with my mother comparing me with others. I am almost done with my medical school and I am too tired with the comparison and taunt. With how I talk, I am taunted each time - like if I talk more I am taunted if I talk less I am taunted.

I can't even share my feeling with my mother with her saying you are taunting me and refusing what Allah gave you. I am very much satisfied with Allah decree, and as a human with and a lil sensitive I do often tell my sadness to my mum saying I didn't get it knowing it was not in my fate but its not I am againt the Allah decree its just my overwhelming emotions.

Her stating that I am not caring at all but if I list I am suddenly the show off? Just because I don't openly show my care doesn't mean I am not empathic, and comparing me with others

I am tired with her always comparing me to my brother, praising them and forgetting their sin and keep on reminding my sin. Isn't that hypocrisy? I am not a perfect Muslim but I am trying to keep Allag first in everything, but why does she keep me comparing me telling me bad about my future offspring and saying that no one should deserve a daughter like you. I have seen others parents not treating their children bad and praising them and my mum never had praised me and always nitpicked me, taunted me made fun of me

I am too tired. Am I that bad?

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Salam alaykum, Please don’t remove this because I really need answers. I can’t forgive myself, and I feel extremely lost.

Two years ago, my dad passed away. He was the world to me the only person who truly loved me for who I am. He was gentle, caring, and always made me feel safe and valued. When he died, it felt like I lost the only person who ever understood me.

After his death, things with my mom became extremely difficult. She’s always been a very controlling and aggressive person. Growing up, she rarely showed affection, kindness, or emotional support. She always believed that being harsh and never acknowledging my effort would make me stronger or push me to do more. Sometimes she could be nice, but that was very rare and only in special situations.

When my dad passed, her controlling behavior got worse. She tried to take control of everything in my life even my share of the inheritance and she constantly pressured me about my choices, my life, and my decisions. I tried to stay patient and respectful, but over time, the pressure, the emotional manipulation, and the feeling of being trapped just broke me down completely.

One day, after months of holding it all in, I lost control and hit her. It was just one moment of rage and weakness, but it’s something I deeply regret every single day. The memory of how she looked after that moment still haunts me. Since then, our relationship has been very tense. I try to stay neutral and distant just to keep my mental stability, but inside, I’m drowning in guilt. I keep remembering what I did, and it hurts so much. I feel broken and I don’t know how to forgive myself or move on.

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I dont know, after crossing 30, which is not a big age number i had started to feel like the way I'm dressing ia not the same way to dress up for a woman.

Im not an over religious (hindu) person, nor my parents ever pressured me and not my in laws. But with time I had started to feel there's something of a standard a woman should uphold.

I did tried to talk to a friend and suddenly she called me old thinker and anti feminist. I work and im also a wife. But guide me regarding this.

Why is it important to dress up always in tight clothes or such?

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Assalam alikoum. I am a young Man. For the last 5 years i have been almost totaly lonely. 90% of the interactions i had were with my close family. I though I had made close friendships but i realised we were not that close, now I rarely see them though we still like each other. I have done nothing wrong, have always been good to every friend i made and they will testify to it. I am feeling increasingly lonely + struggles of life. I can't get married yet though I want to. Does islam, quran, suna, montion anything about this. Barak allah fikm

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My dad dated my mums best friend, abandoned my brother in the streets mentally unwell. Lied to the police and said my brother was living with us when he was living with him.Lied to my mum for ten years promising her marriage and getting her to cook and clean for him, then marrying someone else without telling anyone. He destroyed my mum and my brother, but I have to respect him, keep a good relationship with him? There’s nothing worse then he could of done to me apart from murder. That’s not even adding that he provided nothing for me in my childhood even though he was a senior engineer I grew up in a council house.

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I just wanted to ask, should I be skipping my second class (seminar) at Uni on Fridays so that I can pray the Jummah Prayer. I would be missing 2 hours worth of work every Friday and have a lot to catch up on? I'm not sure what the ruling is regarding this? Jazakallah khair.

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Salam. I have aunts (father’s side sisters) that do extremely strong magic. They have a lot of money and can spend a lot on magic. This time they are doing something really strong to make people hate me and cut off my opportunities. They made me lose my previous career that I spent 10 years towards and now they’re trying their best to end my current one. I pray 5 times a day and try to do other tasbehs but sometimes the magic they do is so strong that things keep coming bad. Any advice or prayers for me will help.

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I am a teacher in a very multicultural school. In my class approximately 40% of my kids are Muslim, I’m not. Last Ramadan/ Eid I noticed a real discrepancy between the decorations we created as part of our celebration of Eid, and those I put up for Christmas. Just in terms of quality and quantity and also length of time they were up. This is not something that I want to repeat this year. I know there isn’t really an equivalent of a Christmas tree, but I was wondering if there are appropriate decorations for Ramadan, which I know shouldn’t be a frivolous time. And what should go up for Eid, and how long they should be up for (bearing in mind that all of the children will be off for at least the day of Eid, if not a day or two afterwards. And also remembering that we have Christmas stuff up for around 20 days)

Really I would just like to create an equal atmosphere.
When I had an older class we visited the local mosque and did litter picks and ‘charitable‘ things to celebrate Ramadan but I don’t think that is as appropriate with this current class.

Thanks!

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Salam sisters, My periods are always 7-8 days long. But on the 5th day usually its less flow, then on 6th day there would be nothing (sometimes small drop spotting a whole day) then i usually take ghusl and start praying on the 6th day itself, but then there would be spotting suddenly on the 7th day. So sometimes i dont bother to take ghusl on the 6th day cos i know there might be spotting the next day. Now i dont know which is correct? Should i wait 7th day as its always like that or should i ghusl and pray and then on 8th day ghusl and pray? Iam confused. Pls pls advice me

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Salaam all, I’m not sure where to start but I’m writing this with a very heavy heart so please be kind in the responses.

I lost my mother and I’m feeling very lost. I feel extreme sadness also since no one around me can understand me. I’m still young..and everyone who is older (70s) still have their mothers and they try to comfort me by saying we all have to go and they understand how I feel bc they lost their father at old age. It’s not the same at all. I’m young, my mother was young so they don’t understand it’s not the same at all. The level of grief I’m going through is not the same. She will not meet my kids/ her grandkids whereas the older people around me have parents who got to live till old age.

My mother also had an extremely hard life. She was married before and one of the husbands basically killed her baby.

My father is not a good person. She married him as a single mom, but he was so abusive to her all my life. He would beat her a lot, financially abuse her, and even rape her. Till the day she died she was in high stress all the time. But somehow she was always happy with us, always showed love and had a smile on her face. She faced many health issues because of my father (physical and especially mental health) and he would just blame her and call her crazy. He never accepted that what he did was wrong. People told him to take care of her and make sure she takes her meds. He never did. There is much more abuse to her story. Too much to write down. She lived many lifetimes of abuse in one life.

The house was also in a very bad state. He never took care of it (infestations etc). I’m sad that my mother lived such a miserable life and I feel guilty. I wanted her to live so she could live with me in the future. I’m sad she was the one who had to go and not my father.

My father seems unaffected. He acts and talks completely normal. He seems happy and was listening to music as well.

I want to distance myself from him. He calls and acts like I’m being rude for not calling him. I do not want to speak to him. She died because of his negligence. Is it ok for me to go no contact or very low contact with him?

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hi, it's me again, the guy that asked about the permissability of using oh my god or god damn it. I've started to stop using those words now, and instead of saying oh my god I sometimes say ya allah to express my surprise or however I'm feeling. I'm not so sure if this is sinful though, like, am I using god's name in vein at this point. What words should I use. I know it's probably very normal for people to be using religion and god to literally express whatever emotion they have or just to say it for no reason. it's about as common as using curse words. so am I commiting a sin if I keep saying allah's name so non-shelontly like that?

this post might probably get deleted but I also don't know where to ask?

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I frequently cook with Haram Ingredients including: Rum; Wine; Whiskey and Pork. Should I purchase separate cooking utensils for preparing food for my Muslim friends or is thoroughly washing them enough?

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Assalamu ‘alaykum everyone,

(To be honest, I was planning to post this last week, but in the middle of writing it I received some very difficult news. It completely broke me, and the past week has been very painful. Now that I’m feeling a little bit better, I decided to finish it and share it.)

2025 has been a very tough year for me both professionally and personally. I’ve been unemployed for months. I’ve gone to interviews, but without success. At the same time, I went through a very painful family situation. At some points, it felt like I couldn’t even breathe.

One surprising positive from this hardship is that it gave me space to work on my faith. Before, I was only doing the basics: praying the five daily prayers, fasting in Ramadan, avoiding harm to others. I thought that was enough. Deep down, I knew I could do more, but I wasn’t trying. Over these past months, I started waking up for Fajr and tahajjud, praying on time, reading Qur’an, doing dhikr, and reflecting on who I want to be. I feel closer to Allah and more conscious of Him, and for that I’m truly grateful. Honestly, maybe this wouldn’t have happened if I had been busy with a job.

All my life I’ve tried to live with gratitude and remind myself that as long as I can say “it could be worse”, I need to say alhamdulillah and thank Allah. That’s why whenever I face hardship, I try to focus on the blessings Allah has given me. It usually helps me find some ease.

But there’s still a struggle in my heart. I’m working on trusting that Allah will give me what’s best. At the same time, I feel afraid: what if “what’s best” doesn’t come soon? What if it’s in months, years, or something that will never happen? Sometimes this thought makes me hesitate unconsciously even in du‘a. After praying, I notice that sometimes can’t always ask Allah for what I want, almost as if my heart whispers: “What’s the point of asking, if it won’t happen or it’s not its time?”

So part of me wonders: if I feel this fear, does that mean my tawakkul isn’t sincere, or that my efforts to become a better person and muslim aren’t genuine?

Has anyone else felt something similar trying to grow closer to Allah while dealing with uncertainty, fear, or waiting for something? How did you deal with it? I’d really appreciate hearing your advice or experience

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