So I am not muslim,but I was with two my muslim friends infront of mosque and we were sitting on bench and random kitty came to me jumped on my lap and started sleeping ðŸ˜
Two of them wanted her to pet her but she bited all of is and wouldn't move from me,she would just look at me and be all clingy around me.
I know that cats have some blessing in Islam.I was just wondering.
Assalamu Alaikum everyone,
I am writing this with a heavy but hopeful heart. I am a young Muslimah currently going through a very difficult phase of spiritual isolation and loneliness, and I desperately need some advice or just to know that I am not alone.
My Situation: I recently returned to Islam (Alhamdulillah) and started praying my 5 daily prayers. However, I am the only one in my immediate family who practices. My parents and sister do not pray, and unfortunately, their main daily conversations revolve around backbiting (Ghibah), judging others, and speaking ill of people. It breaks my heart every day. I feel like an intruder in my own home, unable to share my spiritual joy or struggles with them.
A few weeks ago, I met a brother online who helped me open my eyes to the beauty of Islam. We had deep, respectful conversations about the Prophet (peace be upon him) and our faith. He was the first person I could talk to about Deen without being judged. We both had serious intentions regarding marriage, and he seemed to share my values (wanting to marry young, work hard, etc.).
However, a few days ago, he went silent. He mentioned he was sick and needed space. I tried to send him messages but no answer it was like he was ghosting me so I performed Istikhara and felt a sense of peace, but my heart is still anxious due to the silence. To protect my mental health and stop the anxiety of waiting for a message, I made the difficult decision to delete him completely. I want to rely solely on Allah and stand on my own feet.
Now, I feel incredibly lonely. Seeing my family’s behavior contrasts so sharply with the respectful connection I had, and it makes me wonder: "Why did Allah give me a taste of this beautiful companionship only to take it away?"
I am torn between:
-Trusting that this silence is a test or a protection from Allah.
-The fear that I might be left alone in this environment forever.
-Wondering if I made the right choice by cutting off contact completely to save my peace.
Has anyone here experienced being the only practicing Muslim in their family? How do you cope with the loneliness and the pain of seeing your loved ones engage in sins like backbiting and not paying ? Also, for those who have experienced a similar situation with a loved one someone you had grown attached to who suddenly stopped reaching out: How did you handle the waiting? Did you find peace of mind by cutting off all contact?
I am seeking spiritual strength and advice, and I want to remind myself that Allah is sufficient for me. Any counsel or supplication (Dua) would be invaluable to me.
Jazakum Allahu Khayran.
i’m doubting islam but at the same time i know is the true and i don’t want to have these doubts anymore
One day, my uncle said to me, "You're thinking about yourself. You need to think about your mother and your younger sister." I have individualistic nature.
Why do they consider me responsible for their happiness? My mother has $14,000 (I'm from developing country, and this is big money) and a three-room apartment; that money will last her the rest of her life, even after she retires.
Yesterday, I lost my temper and said I wanted to move out. My grandmother said she wouldn't allow it, and my mother did too; they seemed scared. Why are they afraid of my decisions?
My therapist told me I should discuss my future plans with them. But whenever I bring up the subject, they either dismiss my dreams, tell me to do it later, push their own plans on me, invoke god, or pull other strange behaviours like that. Why are they so afraid of me becoming independent(emotionally and financially)?
Also my therapist told them to treat me as a young adult. But the moment they walked outside of the therapist office, they forgot the advice
I want to find a therapist who will stand by me; I want to find a job—to support myself, move out, pay for therapy, and save up to achieve my dreams. Why do they want me to put my plans on hold and force their own solutions on me?
Some people told me to respect them strongly. the more I respect them, they are treating me like shit. one day my mom called me monkey because I didn't want to get haircut.
if I ever follow their paths, I will be depressed and anxious for the rest of my life. They just don't care about my mental health!
I tried everything I have learned from Islam or psychology. They are just making me keep stuck. I faced guilt-trips, gaslighting, minimising, comparison and every type of manipulation. I JUST WANT TO LIVE MY LIFE
Sometimes my family gives unasked advice and doesn't take it. it feels like they are hypocrites. for example, my mum told me to accept people because I can't change them, however she tries to change me, my personality, my behaviours.
You may say "bring imam or older people and talk with your parents". if I did that, they would protect my family's opinions instead of me. I have seen a lot of imams doing that.
my only salvation is to find a psychologist who stand with me
Please I need assurance or advice on this topic. I don't care about my Heaven or Hell right now. I want to live my life
I have seen people saying to "control your nafs". My question is how can we do that? Like the practical steps. How can we control our desires. Lately I feel I have become a victim of my own nafs. I keep committing sins. Sins vary from open to private. Sometimes I feel like committing the sin will be the only option to be at ease (knowing very well that what I am doing is wrong and i will feel intense guilt afterwards). I really hate myself to be in this situation. So kindly guide me, how can I kill my nafs or make it under my control?