Hi,
I am F and met a M for marriage purposes (chaperoned ofc). I am a bit confused or indecisive about him and maybe I cant get an advise or two about this case.
Never met the guy before, only talked with his sister and that's why I asked him to have a face to face meeting. We had the meeting and I didn't like two things about him: he was good looking in general but he had visible cavities in his front teeth and I am very turned off by that. I can't imagine getting intimate with someone who doesn't take the proper care or doesn't care about his dental hygiene, so much so he can accept looking like that.
Some close friends told me that this thing is fixable and I can just let him know so he can take care of that issue and maybe get a dental job done. But I would be really embarrased to tell him to do that before marriage otherwise I am not going to marry him. I don't know what should I do.
And the other thing is that he didn't ask much or initiate topics in that date. His questions were not really that deep or vague, about things that don't matter much in marriage. I was the one to ask most questions, the most important questions about marriage. This kinda worries me because if he doesn't care that much about me to lead the conversation to the most important topics, then how is he going to be a leader for me in the marriage? It was like I was giving the masculine energy, and he was just shying away. I don't want things in the future to be like that. I want to be in my feminine energy, and have my husband as my leader, protector, provider. I'm also not the type to talk too much but I tried my best to initiate topics/convos because they were just being silent and awkward. Even his sister could ask me more questions than him. Maybe it is the first time and he is just nervous and couldn't do much but I still feel worried about it.
Should I already take a decision?
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