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For me, this post is a vent and an attempt to understand others. I’m not trying to judge anyone but i’m in despair and i feel helpless not u...

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on May 30, 2026 0

For me, this post is a vent and an attempt to understand others. I’m not trying to judge anyone but i’m in despair and i feel helpless not understanding others or knowing what to do.

I do not want any arguments about hijab, tabarruj or music. I know what i believe to be true and if you do not believe it to be true then this post isn’t directed at you respectfully. I want to understand those who believe but simply do not care and i want to know of those who can relate with me.

I do not listen to it but navigating everyday life without it is quite difficult because it’s everywhere. But i try my best to avoid functions with it. Culturally, music is ingrained in all cultures. It is a known part of most celebrations even something as simple as a picnic. I find that when I’m in such functions where music is played, i cant enjoy the whole thing. I end up being like a grinch and a downer. I am not comfortable and i end up feeling sad and helpless not understanding why everyone else is so hung up on music.

I become even more sad when i see children dancing to music and parents encouraging it because it is a cultural thing. It makes me scared for my own child and for the ummah. It feels like i am standing by a window looking into a room with people playing loud music, laughing and dancing and i just don’t understand.

I am trying so hard to obey Allah and i look around me and no one cares. Does it not matter? Same thing with the hijab and tabarruj. I do not like to snap pictures with others because it becomes weird to tell them not to post me when i am already in a picture with them. And then people take offense that i do not take pictures.

I struggle everyday with my hijab and i look around and no one else cares. It is not an issue of having a hijab journey. It is simply what is culturally accepted as modesty triumphing the legislated hijab and nobody cares. I am the one overdoing it to them.

So muslim girlies who perhaps understand all what i wrote and can relate to an extent. How do you deal with it? Your emotions and your relations with others? And if there’s anyone who simply doesn’t care.. what’s your thought process? What’s your plan? Do you really not care?

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on May 29, 2026 0

Assalamu Alaikum,

I have a question that has been bothering me for a long time, and I hope someone can help me understand it.

I am a Muslim, but the main reason I am Muslim is that I was born into a Muslim family. At the same time, I have friends who are not Muslims because they were born into non-Muslim families and were raised with different beliefs.

Because of this, I sometimes wonder: isn’t that an unfair advantage for me and a disadvantage for them? If I had been born in their circumstances, I might have followed the religion I was raised with as well.

This question becomes even more difficult for me when I hear people say that non-Muslims will not enter Paradise. If people’s beliefs are heavily influenced by where and to whom they were born, how is that justice ? How does Islamic theology address this concern while maintaining Allah’s perfect justice and mercy?

I am asking sincerely and respectfully,I genuinely want to understand.

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on May 28, 2026 0

Parents breached my privacy, forced an ultimatum, and now I’ve moved out. Am I being undutiful (Uqooq) in Islam?

I am a 24-year-old financially stable man Alhamdulillah. I work, have my own savings, and actually rent my own apartment, though I was living with my parents for Eid.
And earlier, Out of pure trust—and to ensure my family was protected if anything ever happened to me—I voluntarily gave my mother my phone and banking passwords.
Recently, while I was out at the mosque for prayer, my mother used my password to go through all of my private WhatsApp conversations. She found two things that caused an absolute explosion when I got home:
1. \*\*Conversations with my paternal uncles:\*\* My parents have a deeply toxic, bitter history with my father's brothers, and we were raised to view them as enemies. However, as I practiced my Islam, I learned the severe gravity of \*Silat al-Rahim\* (maintaining ties of kinship). My uncles messaged me on Eid to wish me well, and as a Muslim, I simply replied to their \*Salam\* and returned the Eid greetings.
2. \*\*Conversations with marriage potentials:\*\* I am actively looking to get married to protect my chastity. My parents flatly refused to help me until a certain age, so I took the initiative to respectfully contact the fathers of potential spouses myself.
When I returned from prayers, my mother was furious. She confiscated my phone, and my dad physically blocked me from getting near her to retrieve my property. She then publicly mocked my marriage efforts to humiliate me in front of the family. Finally, they gave me an ultimatum: permanently hand over my phone/privacy, or leave the house.
Because my patience was entirely exhausted and I have my own place, I chose to leave.
I did not use force or yell, but I am absolutely terrified. I know how heavy the status of parents is in Islam. I am frozen by the fear that leaving them while they are angry constitutes \*Uqooq\* (disobedience) and will earn Allah’s wrath.
Has anyone been through a similar situation, or does anyone have scholarly advice on how to navigate this? How do I establish healthy adult boundaries and protect my Islam without destroying my relationship with my parents?

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on May 27, 2026 0

Disclamer: I don’t wish to offend any practitioners or any religion. I don’t speak English; I’m using a translator. If some of my comments seem harsh or offensive, it’s really down to the translator – and that’s not just an excuse. Thank you for your understanding.

Hello, here is my concern. I was born into a Muslim family; the members of this family are either Muslim or atheist. Some are Muslim but are not practising (they do not pray). My mother is one of them. I was not raised as a Muslim and I respect that because, for me, one must choose one’s own path and not have it imposed upon them.

I am now hesitating to practise this religion. But I have a concern: apart from my health issues, which prevent me from performing ablutions with water (I think this problem can be easily overcome) and from being regular and punctual in my practice, I cannot speak Arabic. I have never learnt it. My parents speak it, but we never spoke the language at home. Yet this poses a problem for practising the religion. I have learnt a few surahs by heart, but, despite reciting them every day without actually performing a proper prayer, not only do I not know what I am saying, but I am gradually forgetting them. Some members of my family tell me that all I need to do is learn Arabic, but we’re talking about learning a difficult language that won’t be of any use to me in everyday life. It would be easier to learn the Arabic used in the Quran only.

But even then, the practice is strict and poses a problem for me. Between wearing the hijab, eating exclusively halal in a city where halal meat is hard to come by, and Ramadan (which I’ve done before but which traumatised me), the ban on listening to music, having to cover up as much as possible to avoid showing any curves, being forced to marry a Muslim, and so on. I have no desire to become a nun; I just want to get closer to God...

I get the impression that the Qur’an only talks about punishment if you don’t do this or that

But at the same time, aren’t we bound to God through the religion we were born into? Even though it’s complicated in my family, as I’m surrounded by atheists or non-practising believers (plus my father was born into a Muslim family, became interested in Christianity, and then, due to his health problems, was no longer able to think about much of anything)

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on May 26, 2026 0

There are many times people think what they are doing makes them a righteous Muslim but what they are doing is a sin. Be careful not to fall into these traps. Examples below. All Arabic vocabulary defined at the end for new Muslims.

Exposing others' sins

In Islam, the Muslim who conceals others' sin, on judgement day will have their own sins concealed. Source.

Many think they're being righteous by exposing others and calling sins out but actually it is harming them spiritually.

Often, someone will post something online and another person will spread around screenshots mocking what they say. But the prophet (ﷺ) emphasized mercy and concealment whenever possible, save for fiqhi exceptions (e.g. legal tesimony, warning against fraud, etc.) Source.

Casual Takfir

Declaring anyone a kafir is a serious matter in Islam. False accusations can turn the accuser kafir. Source.

Classical scholars took numerous steps before declaring someone a kafir. This included clarifying what the person meant, guiding them, giving them time to turn back to guidance, etc.Source.

Today, casual takfir is alarmingly common, especially online. People are throwing around accusations of being kafir like baseballs. They think they are being righteous but they are harming themself spiritually. Too many uneducated Muslims throw around takfir accusations for sins that, according to fiqh, do not excommunicate one from Islam. This is dangerous.

Declaring someone will go to Hell

Some Muslims look at a sinner and declare them bound for Hell. They think they are being righteous but this is spiritually very dangerous.

One hadith describes two men: one a sinner, one righteous. The righteous man one day declares the sinner will go to Hell (another narration says Allah will not forgive him). Allah gets extremely angry at this statement and the man's good deeds are destroyed. Source.

Too many Muslims are quick to declare someone is bound for Hell, not realizing the dangerous weight of the statement they are making.

Treating harshness as piety

Islam strongly emphasizes mercy, respect, and balance. Many Muslims think they are being righteous when they are harsh with others but it is spiritually not healthy. Examples:

- Forbidding permissible enjoyment

- Treating every difference of scholarly opinion as deviance

- Making any political ideology a part of faith

Moderation and mercy are integral parts of Islam. Practicing harshness towards others in religious matters is not encouraged.

Dictionary

Fiqh = Islamic jurisprudence

Takfir = Declaring someone a kafir, or excommunicating them from Islam

Kafir = One who knowingly disbelieves in Islam despite the full truth reaching them

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