One day, my uncle said to me, "You're thinking about yourself. You need to think about your mother and your younger sister." I have individualistic nature.
Why do they consider me responsible for their happiness? My mother has $14,000 (I'm from developing country, and this is big money) and a three-room apartment; that money will last her the rest of her life, even after she retires.
Yesterday, I lost my temper and said I wanted to move out. My grandmother said she wouldn't allow it, and my mother did too; they seemed scared. Why are they afraid of my decisions?
My therapist told me I should discuss my future plans with them. But whenever I bring up the subject, they either dismiss my dreams, tell me to do it later, push their own plans on me, invoke god, or pull other strange behaviours like that. Why are they so afraid of me becoming independent(emotionally and financially)?
Also my therapist told them to treat me as a young adult. But the moment they walked outside of the therapist office, they forgot the advice
I want to find a therapist who will stand by me; I want to find a job—to support myself, move out, pay for therapy, and save up to achieve my dreams. Why do they want me to put my plans on hold and force their own solutions on me?
Some people told me to respect them strongly. the more I respect them, they are treating me like shit. one day my mom called me monkey because I didn't want to get haircut.
if I ever follow their paths, I will be depressed and anxious for the rest of my life. They just don't care about my mental health!
I tried everything I have learned from Islam or psychology. They are just making me keep stuck. I faced guilt-trips, gaslighting, minimising, comparison and every type of manipulation. I JUST WANT TO LIVE MY LIFE
Sometimes my family gives unasked advice and doesn't take it. it feels like they are hypocrites. for example, my mum told me to accept people because I can't change them, however she tries to change me, my personality, my behaviours.
You may say "bring imam or older people and talk with your parents". if I did that, they would protect my family's opinions instead of me. I have seen a lot of imams doing that.
my only salvation is to find a psychologist who stand with me
Please I need assurance or advice on this topic. I don't care about my Heaven or Hell right now. I want to live my life
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