Many of us do not take the rule of not touching non mahrams seriously.
Stop handing out your skin to non mahrams. Do not shake hands, hugs, etc. with non mahrams.
Also take free mixing seriously and do not befriend/belove the opposite gender!
Jazakum Allahu Khayran
As an American Muslim I am shocked to see so much rampant and blatant islamophobia around me. I wasn’t in the US when 9/11 happened, but several of my family and friends who were here, all think it is worse than that time right now.
Does anyone else feel this rising hatred for Muslims around them? If so, how are you all dealing with this?
Are you doing anything to combat this? I feel so villainized as a Muslim in the west and wish that Muslims worked together rather being split along ethnic and sectarian lines.
I’ve hit a brick wall in my life. I already suffer from GAD and MDD. I don’t want to take meds as they do more harm than good.
I need to make money. I’ve looked for jobs for months, nobody wants to employ me because of the “no experience” stigma. I’ve looked for freelancing opportunities. I’ve looked for baby sitting jobs, they are all full time and I attend university (long before I get my degree. I’ve even looked for tutoring jobs. I don’t even mind doing the $1 $urverys but they also don’t work.
Recently, I’ve come up with a business idea. The problem is I need a license and the costs round up to $1400.
My father passed away a while ago and my mom can barely keep up with the costs we already have. I literally don’t know what to do anymore. You need money to make money. This is destroying my mental health even further. What does this world expect me to do? Starve and die? I just wanna be able to breathe without somebody telling me they’re paying for me then trying to control me with their money. I’m an adult living like a kid. I’m exhausted.
As-salamu alaykum,
Please read fully, I need advice.
I need help understanding why people say Allah won’t accept my prayers because I smoke weed. In my heart, I don’t personally believe that weed is haram, but I will never claim the Quran says it isn't because I am not knowledgeable enough and would never want to mislead anyone.
For a long time, I stopped praying completely because people kept telling me my prayers wouldn't be accepted. I tried my best to avoid other sins, but one day, I committed a very major sin. On my way home, Quran randomly started playing on my phone, and I broke down crying. I was crying out of guilt for the sin I had committed and fear of what Allah would do to me, but also out of heartbreak because I felt like I couldn't even pray to ask Him for forgiveness since I smoke every day. I felt completely stuck. Fast forward a few months, and I finally decided: I don't care what people say anymore—I am going to pray, even if I continue to struggle with smoking.
I have always tried my best to live a good life. I am respectful to everyone, especially my elders. My parents mean everything to me—I love and respect them deeply from my heart, not just because it is an obligation in Islam, but because I genuinely adore them and try never to burden them. I try to be kind, smile at others, and follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). Today, I even took off my gold jewelry for the first time (I’m male), which was really hard for me because those pieces were sentimental gifts from my mother. (Previously, I would only take them off while praying.) Every day in my prayers, I ask Allah to remove my desire for things that might be haram.
Smoking weed has become a routine for me because it helps me manage my anxiety, control my anger issues, and generally enjoy life. It also helps me fall asleep at night, which is something I really struggle with. I smoke in the morning, sometimes between prayers, and at night. However, I make sure never to smoke right before I pray because I want to be fully focused during my prayer. I could easily obtain a medical card for my condition, but doing so would restrict certain civil rights, such as the right to bear arms in some states, which makes that option complicated for me.
My questions are:
Is Allah truly not rewarding me, accepting my supplications (dua), or accepting my prayers just because I smoke weed—even though it helps me with my mental health?
Do I really have to pick between praying and smoking, or am I doing the right thing by continuing to pray anyway?
What should I do when I feel so conflicted?
I’m experiencing a pain that is impossible to put into words. I lost my father. We fought cancer for a year. My only wish is that, after everything he endured, he has finally found peace.
I just want to hug him tightly and tell him, “Dad, we went through those terrible days, but we’re happy now.”
This world has turned into hell for me right now. I just want to be with my father again as soon as possible.
Will I see him in Heaven? Will I remember him the way I do today? Will I be able to hug him again and tell him that I love him?
I just want to know that he is somewhere peaceful, free from all the pain he suffered.
Tomorrow is Friday, and I intend to pray all day, hoping that there will be an hour when my prayers are answered.Do you have similar stories? Especially for Friday prayers and may everyone who passes by here pray for me from the bottom of their heart, thank you.
 | A very important reminder for us all that death is real and we need to be conscious of it. I myself tend to "forget" or not really ponder/reflect on death, but it's crucial that we all do. [link] [comments] |
I didn’t manage to secure a scholarship to study medicine in any university although my final grade is considered very high, infact I was ranked 11th in the whole country ( the one I completed my studies in , not my home country ) but I applied to med school here in my home country and to my disbelief I didn’t get a scholarship to study in any of them. I did get accepted but into the non-scholarship program which costs a lot but I managed to secure a scholarship not from the Uni itself but from an organization.
Another problem is that the Uni I got accepted into takes 5 hours of commuting in total which I think is a lot, and I have to maintain a 3.0+ gpa to stay on scholarship ( the one provided by the organization) and I can’t afford a dorm .
I wanted to mention that even after the scholarship it’s still considered very expensive and I know my parents aren’t this financially well-off.
I REALLY want to study medicine but it just doesn’t feel right and it feels as if Allah -swt- really wanted me to study medicine I would’ve just gotten a scholarship because he knows how much I’ve worked and my parents’s financial situation. Also because I didn’t get into the uni I wanted, also the commuting thing is just unbelievable.
I managed to secure a full scholarship to study electrical engineering in the uni I wanted but I don’t really like engineering or anything other than medicine
I prayed istgarah and made dua that god will give me a clear sign, but I have to make up my mind by tomorrow morning, how do will I know which is the right choice (and yes I talked about it w my mum my dad I asked multiple ppl about it and they all had different opinions, I myself don’t know if I should just give it up because it sounds impossible, but at the same time idk if I’ll regret not giving it a try)
I grew up in a racist family. I grew up only hearing about how Muslims are terrorists and oppress women. My sister has converted, my nephew is Muslim, my now ex is Muslim and my ingrained racism caused the relationship to fall apart. I hate that. I want to change. I want to be a better person. How do I eliminate this anxiety I have? Whenever I make progress my family or shit I see online appears to derail me. But I want to, would appreciate some advice. I’m sorry
 | We should all learn Allahs swt 99 names to get closer to him. Plz listen to this video l talk about the first two 99 names of Allah [link] [comments] |
A very random question but I came across this dua recently on insta posted by a fairly reputable scholar (I am not sure who he is but I have seen his videos often) who usually gives duas for certain situations. There was one he mentioned that would allow you to see visions of future in your sleep and I’ve said this dua before sleeping twice and both times I probably had the worst sleep of my entire life. Genuinely just could not sleep. Again I’m not sure entirely of the reference backing that dua but can anyone guide me on if such things are legit or not and does my “bad” sleep mean anything or am I drawing wrong conclusions/overthinking?
I’ve grown up as a Protestant Christian who dang near worshiped Israel. And I always wondered how in the Book of Revelation the world would turn against Israel.
Now.
I get it.
I’ve completely turned against Israel and want to see absolute justice for its literal genocide in Gaza, I want its Greater Israel project ceased, and I want American dollars to stop funding its operations.
I get it now how the “million man army” comes to Israel, and I would cheer it on.
Isn’t that around the same time the Mahdi appears?
 | Asalaamualaikum, I am currently pregnant and its my first time alhamdulilah. My mother's friend gave her a dried flower for me to drink in tea as it would help with labour and delivery. I believe it's called flower of Maryam. I have had difficulty finding much scientific research on the benefits of this flower and I can't find any mention in the Quran or any hadiths. I would appreciate if anyone had any information about this. I feel uncomfortable to consume anything I can't find much information on. I have attached a picture of what the dried flower looks like. Jazakallah [link] [comments] |
Hello! basically what the top says.
Many people are saying they found that their life’s were tested more when they started praying.
my life is an all time low, granted it could be worse. I want to pray but, based on what i’m hearing i’m scared lol
As-salamu alaykum - I'm a female who has recently reverted. Been married over a decade to the love of my life, who very much supported me becoming a Muslim and is a Christian.
Prior to my conversion, I was an atheist, so my husband was very glad to see that I finally developed a relationship with God.
He has always struggled with the idea of the trinity in Christianity. My husband has never said one negative thing about Islam, and I feel I may be able to convince him that Islam is the truth. I'm looking for a book recommendation that I can give him as a present, that isn't the Qur'an, but will still make him see Islam as the truth.
Any recommendations?
Jazakallahu khairan
Every time I get closer to Islam, i don’t know if I’m being tested but my life gets 10x worse and does not make me want to continue. This testing idea makes no sense to me.
Allah knows best so why is he testing me knowing I will believe less in him? I’m really to the point that I may no longer believe in God. It’s not even in a way that I’m trying to go against God or anything it’s more that my life is in such a bad position right now that I don’t see the point of believing in a God like why is it that all these people that are not believers are so successful with beautiful families while me a young guy that tries his best, does good deeds end up in a sh**y position in life. Why do kids grow up in extreme toxic lifestyles and others in rich loving lifestyles. I get the whole idea of jannah and everything and that this life is a test and temporary but..
I hate living my life right now, I hate thinking of God.. it stresses me because I got more important things to worry about. I prayed for help, I prayed for so much but nothing was answered not one thing. I don’t feel the presence of God and I am really thinking he might not be real and it’s just a coping mechanism for people that can’t accept deat and nothingness.
I have one question that will never let me live in peace If everything happens by Allah's will then why are we told to keep making dua? I think we need so much focus energy and hope for Dua And I did that Day and night, in every namaz, in every azan, in the rain, at midnight I had only one dua:
Ya Allah, give my father a long life i heard that charity increases life so I always gave charity for my father Because he was the only one I had in this world 💔 My mother brothers were there, but they were cruel abusive always gave importance to others upon me i don't have any relative cousin friend nothing only my father my mother try to get Me Marry with anyone against my will Only my father saved me i Always believed that Allah never leaves anyone alone and Allah will never humiliate me But when you make the same dua since childhood and it never gets accepted, how do you make your heart believe that God is there?
My only dua for years was Nothing should happen to my father Just give him a little more time am not asking for 100 years, just let him see my wedding i can't explain
My father did everything for me He never abandoned me. When I decided to go to a shelter 4 years ago due to My toxic family father left his own home own area and came with us He said,My daughters will not be left alone while I am alive He found a house, paid 23,000 rent, and worked day and night at this age just for us.
And what did he get for all his goodness? That his daughter is left completely alone in this world of millions? When I got the call that my father had collapsed, I immediately started reciting Durood-e-Ibrahimi with tears, holding my heart. I was sure Allah is not so unjust. But only bad news came. My heart is shattered.
Now what dua should I make?
Ya Allah, if you had to take my father, you should have at least given me a good person so I would not be left to wander At least my father would have seen me safe and would have left peacefully
Now I have no one i was saved by my father from my cruel family, and now I am back to the same cruel family again they are abusing me bashing me and again wants to take control of my Life again and i don't have anyone any place where should I go? Far from the city, to whom should I go? My sister who was with me and with father since 4 years she also betrayed me Now she had a boyfriend she didn't tell me about she is going with him in few days What did I get from praying? Now I don't even have a shelter not a guardian protector Why?
My mother used to abuse me a lot Even today she said so many things to me that your younger sister got married you are just sitting on your father's head and eating him now who will keep you? There is no place for me Why didn't I get a good person what was my fault that am seeing This day? My sister also has no sympathy for me This is the same boyfriend who 8 years ago didn't marry her and ran away, now she is marrying the same guy How can I live here with them, what should I do? Why Allah did nothing for Me?
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
Please make du'a for me and my husband. We are going through a very difficult time, with debts and serious financial and documentation problems.
Please make du'a that Allah eases our situation, helps us with the documents for our residence permit, and sends kind people to help us.
Please also make du'a that Allah grants my husband a halal, stable and secure job where he is treated fairly and receives his rights.
If you remember us, please include us in your du'a, especially during sujood. 🤲
May Allah reward you and ease all your hardships. Ameen.
Hello, brothers and sisters. Well, I wanted to ask if any of you know of an app that teaches different duas. Also, could you recommend a YouTube channel run by someone who knows a lot about Islam—like an imam—so I can learn a little more about duas and improve my prayers... I’ve been a Muslim for a long time, but I make several mistakes that I’d like to correct
Assalamu aleikum brothers and sisters, firstly I want to apologize for my lack of knowledge. If you look at my previous post, you can see that I am not a very good muslim. But alhamdulillah I am trying to do better and learn more.
So I wanted to ask, if the Quran or our prophet Mohammad peace and blessings be upon him ever mentioned what happens to a person when he is physically alone. I am asking this because I feel like my mind just goes all over the place when I am alone and sometimes these random doubts pop up in my head (maybe its waswasa?) and get this existential anxiety. But when I am with other people or in a social setting I usually dont have this problem, but maybe that is because I am distracted.
 | Sheikh dr. Aziz Farhan responds to this claim. English subtitles included. [link] [comments] |
Having a really rough time being pregnant.
I completely understand what a massive blessing it is by Allah swt. It was planned. I feel lucky.
It makes me feel really really horrible though. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally. In every single way I feel horrendous. My other pregnancies were the same, I was hoping this would be easier as I now have young children to also look after.
Allah doesn’t burden our souls with more than it can bear. I know that and believe it wholeheartedly.
But why am I having such a hard time being grateful :( I’m hating this phase so much and it feels so unfair. I feel bad for feeling this way, it’s really upsetting.
I also can’t find much online about support during pregnancy from an Islamic lens. I feel this kind of hardship is the time for those solid reminders (that help you get through bereavement, etc) becuase it’s faith that really pulls you through these hard moments.
If anyone can share anything helpful or in support, I’d be really grateful.
Lost hope in Allah and Islam, I'm at that point where I don't care about God. I've been through stuff one after the other.
I thought, let me start praying my 5 daily prayers, maybe God's help will prevail. It's been 2 months and no changes in my life.
I've built the habit of praying, but I'm just doing it like a robot, l just don't care anymore and don't care about God or salah anymore.
Assalamualaikum, please pray for me and get good health and recovery. Thank you.
Islam honored women by granting them inheritance, ownership, financial independence, and the right to choose their husband, while protecting their dignity and rights. Thus, Islam honored women through established rights and prophetic guidance to treat them with kindness and respect.
The Prophet ﷺ also commanded kindness toward women, saying: “acts kindly towards women ,” and “ . “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives” . He also emphasized that honoring one’s mother is among the greatest acts of righteousness.
I think that if we were to accept the idea that there is nothing after death, the prerequisite for that would be a world that is beautiful one without wars, suffering, or endless human conflict. But as long as these contradictions and bad things exist in the world, there must be a better, higher version of existence, as well as a divine court to hold us all accountable.
As you can see, life simply isn't fair. The rich are not held to the same standard as the poor, and people with a certain appearance are treated far better than those without. Life is inherently unjust, and it makes no sense for it to just end like this with no accountability, no justice, and everyone simply dying and vanishing into nothingness.A clear example of this is the Jeffrey Epstein case. For a long time, everything went smoothly for the perpetrators, and many involved were either ignored by governments or given minimal sentences. What about the victims? If death were truly the absolute end, what would be the point of all this? If life were perfect and peaceful, we could accept living as we please and then fading away. But since life isn't like that, who will hold accountable those whom we cannot reach or punish on Earth?
This is why death is merely the third stage of our journey: we are born (stage one), we live our current life (stage two), and death serves as the transition into the third stage. Beyond death lies the realm of Barzakh, followed by the Day of Judgment, and subsequent stages. Looking at it this way, it is the only thing that makes logical sense
To build further on this idea without saying anything beyond what Allah has revealed—when Allah SWT speaks to the angels in Surah Al-Baqarah, He says: 'Indeed, I will make upon the earth a successive authority (Vicegerent/Khalifah).'
Allah created this vast universe in all its beauty with countless colors, forms, and manifestations specifically for us so that we would never grow weary. If everything were a single color or a single kind, human nature would inevitably tire of it. Even your favorite meal or favorite song loses its charm if experienced daily, simply because you become accustomed to it. That is why Allah designed a universe of infinite diversity, where there is always something new to explore.
He made us Khalifah (vicegerents) on Earth. A Khalifah is one who is entrusted to manage affairs on behalf of the King. Allah is the ultimate King, and we are His representatives on Earth, granted authority to navigate this universe, but strictly within the framework of His laws and rules.
Consider how Allah's divine system operates: He assigned angels to us some to record our good and bad deeds, others to protect us, and others to seek forgiveness for us. If you think about it, whenever princes or leaders assume authority, they are always accompanied by an entourage people who assist, observe, and ensure their actions align with their status. Similarly, Allah surrounds us with this spiritual support system to guide us, keep us on the straight path, and remind us of our purpose. All of this confirms that our earthly existence is not aimless; it is a preparation for what lies beyond this life.
I have converted to Islam in 2025. Most of my best friends are Christian and they drink alcohol and celebrate to have a good time. I do it with them and every time I do it I say it is gonna be the last time and I regret it because I feel Allah won’t forgive me. I am a really good person though and I know Allah is the most merciful.
What do you think of this?
Hey I have a friend who is a Muslim. He needs a prayer rug, and I don’t know where to get one for him. He’s a good friend and I really want to get one for him. Does anyone have one to donate or can you instruct me on where to go to find one?
Hii I work in a senior home and have a resident who only speaks Farsi and is Muslim but I try to be as supportive and friendly with her as I can because of the lack of Muslims or Farsi speakers at my job.
My resident is 104 years old and she is the sweetest woman I have ever met and I want her to feel included and comfortable with us. Aside from learning a little bit of Farsi phrases to communicate her needs I want to surprise her with some snacks from one of the shops in my city, I plan to bring her some flat bread because she loves bread, she is always asking for “noon” and all I have to offer is regular American sandwich bread. However I often see the Muslims in my community purchase the flat bread.
If there are any popular snack recommendations that are “cultural” or just popular in her country I could find in a market I would love to bring her some. She is from Iran, she spent most of her life there before coming the the US a few years ago and since then she was diagnosed with dementia, I want to help her feel close to home in these days.
I do as much as I can for her, I have learned to put on her headscarf for her in the way she likes, make sure she doesn’t get pork with meals and support her as much as I can. I would just like to surprise her with some snacks we don’t have at the home when I go back for my next shift.
Please feel free to correct me if I have made a mistake or offended someone. All love from me to the reader.
Assalamu Alaykum brothers and sisters,
As someone who studies mathematics, and as mentioned in title, I want to share a simple logical thought that proves Allah's presence in every single second of our lives.
You may meet people who believe life started by a "one-time accident" in the past. They say: "Yes, the chance of life starting by luck was small, but it only had to happen ONCE. Since we are here today, that blind luck worked."
They assume luck doesn't need to repeat itself for us to stay alive. But let's look at this using simple math and logic:
Let us assume your chance of staying alive in the next second is 0.5 ( like flipping a coin)
For 1 second: your chance is 0.5.
For 2 seconds: it becomes 0.5 x 0.5 = 0.25
For just 1 minute (60 seconds): the chance becomes almost zero!
In reality, your chance of surviving a second by pure luck is much smaller than 0.5. Why? Because there are infinite ways to die around us at any moment:
* Your heart could suddenly stop.
* An artery could burst.
* A deadly virus could strike.
* A space rock or disaster could happen.
To stay alive for just 1 second, every single one of these infinite causes of death must NOT happen at the same time. By pure luck, this is mathematically impossible. Blind luck can't sustain the universe second after second. It's not one chance and that's it, It's a small chance that must work every single moment.
Yet, we are still here. This continuous survival can't be a series of infinite lucky accidents. It requires an active, continuous Sustainer.
This is exactly what the Quran teaches us. Allah doesn't just say He created life in the past. He frequently uses the continuous verb "Yuhyi". This means He's continuously and actively giving you life in every single microsecond. He is Al-Qayyum (The Self-Sustaining Sustainer of all)
We are being kept alive right now, second by second, by the continuous Will of Allah. SubhanAllah.
Personally, every time I remind myself of this math, it strengthens my Iman and brings Khushu' to my heart.
Try to experience this for yourself next time you want to feel the persence and mercy of Allah:
For one minute, repeat these words to yourself with full awareness:
I'm still alive.. I'm still alive.. I'm still alive...
Do you feel goosebumps? Do you cry from the blessings of your Lord that pour down upon you continuously in every single moment of your life?
please forgive me if any of this sounds ignorant, but I’m truly uneducated on this topic but find myself curious.
So from what I heard, if you are Muslim, you should not date, just marry straight away and you shouldn’t date outside of your culture?? however I started a new job and I work with a lot of Muslim girls who wear a hijab. however a lot of them are in relationships, some with someone outside of their culture and others, within but are not married. I was just wondering, how does this work if it is supposedly Haram and why do they do it?
Sorry if this sounds ignorant, but I also wonder if they take their hijab off for their partners as well? would they even go as far to having intimate relations? Would this be an indicate of being more more or less Muslim than someone who strictly follows the quaran? is there some sort of stigma against girls who date before marrying or date outside their culture?
I’m so sorry if this sounds weird and perverted, but I’m genuinely just curious because as I said I’m uneducated and but it doesn’t stop my curiosity so hope this doesn’t offend anyone!!
All ive ever seen around me when it comes to relationships are the ones built on haram, ive never been in a haram relationship alhamdullilah but im curious on how a halal one blossoms
Side note:
I want to find a spouse in the near future but there's the issue of me just being cooped up at home most of the time (unfortunately against my will)
I would love to have a better social life but that requires a car, a driver's license, and money, which all 3 i dont have. It doesn't help that i live in the middle of nowhere too, most interaction I get is when I go to uni. How do u even find a spouse in these types of situations?
Im aware i should have patience and trust Allah, but i need some advice, i feel stuck and idk how to approach this situation and idk how to get to know a guy also in a halal way (i only know that touching isnt allowed)
Just seeking advice/support, pls be gentle
 | If you are going through a difficult moment, take a few minutes to read Surah Ad-Duha [link] [comments] |
Hi and Assalam alakium Wa ramatuallahi Wa barakatu,
So I was raised seventh day Adventist Christian-medium to conservative- I went to church weekly- went to sabbath school, did adventures and Pathfinders’s and all the nine yards- my mom is seventh day Adventist and my dad is Muslim- I learned about Islam when I was 12 and reverted at 17 and got married at 19. Now I’m trying to figure out what religion is correct and what if I choose the wrong religion and on the day of judgement I’m cooked. What to do but yea.
2 years ago, a relative of my fathers passed away. He went back home to attend the funeral, the next day, I get a call and I still don’t know from whom. It was a woman and I remember feeling eery when she spoke. She called me and shared her condolences, and I corrected her and said that it is not my father who passed away. After that, in my maternal tongue she said something like “oh I’m sorry, my black tongue”
It’s been two years and I do get that eery feeling back when I think of it. My father lived a great life and did pass away as he was getting some serious health issues. I mostly wanted to ask if I could get some thoughts on this.
I’m mostly just posting because I can’t stop thinking about it the last few day
Can you please answer these questions (numbered answers would really help)?
Al-Shukoor acknowledges all forms of worship we offer Him. I am sure His angels record all dhike whether it be offered 9 times, 37 times or 782 times. Is there any strong evidence of precise counts of 33-33-33 tahmeed, tahleel, tasbeeh and other forms of dhikr ?
Deep down I believe in God but logically I can’t wrap my head around God being real.
I’ve seen many people say that humans created religion as a coping mechanism because they can’t deal with knowing there’s nothing coming afterwards. I don’t want to believe this but logically this makes sense to me.
I have autism so I think by logic rather than feelings so it’s very hard for me to understand even though I want to very badly.
Does anyone know any podcasts or anything I can read/listen to that will help with my doubts?
I am tired of getting into details. All I can say is I am with many mental illnesses, physical complications, disabled mother, abusive family, no stability, no job, no happiness in my late 20s. I have been contemplating ending my pain forever. I have been crying I guess for more than a day now. I still get to hear hurtful things and how better the situation would have been if I didn't exist. I also may have a risk of getting sexually assaulted which would be the worst of all. Allah has been so dear to me. I always pray on time. Alhamdulillah. Do all the Ibadah that I can in time. But I really don't want to live anymore
Will Allah forgive me? As much as I know some of the unforgivable sins are shirk, magic, murder, slander against chaste women, etc... I don't think ending life is counted. I just wanna be forgiven by Allah for not winning his tests. I hope I'll have enough people in my life after death asking for my forgiveness. I don't wanna go to hell. Please pray for me
When i started having low iron i used to lose focus a lot like my eyes will become pitch black for a long time and i would lose focus and hearing now it happens for like few seconds When doing prayer (salah) sometimes i lose track of surah the imam is saying and i didn't memories it what should i do?
I've got a coworker who is a Muslim and I've been listening to Islamic scholars and imams on Youtube to try to learn what I can. I started reading the Quran today as well. As a Catholic, is there anything wrong with me saying Salat (which I don't know how to do) or performing wudu?
Salam
I don't want details pl..just the source of ur test..
For me it's my husband.
My greatest blessing is my children and my loving and understanding family (parents/siblings)
There was a period of my life where I made terrible personal choices. I was completely lost and committed significant sins which largely just affected me. My journey back to Islam began slowly then hit me all at once and I was devastated by the realisation of the choices I had made. I repented continuously, wept for weeks, and changed entirely. I was horrified and couldn’t grasp the person I was but committed to learning how to pray, reading Quran, fasting, giving charity. Being good to my family. Although it was a painful period, I felt like I was in the light. I felt new and peaceful somehow. This was a few years ago.
Today, I am a shell of a person. My sins are the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing before I go to sleep. Even my sleep is sometimes disturbed. Shame drips from my face. I try to take care of myself physically but hate myself so much for what I’ve done that I don’t believe I’m worthy of even the basic care at times. I have felt darkness closing in on me over time, suffocating me and stealing everything from me. Nonetheless, I continue to pray, give to charity, try to be good. I have prayed and asked Allah for positive change. For forgiveness. To not be defined by my worst choices. But I feel I am still in darkness.
Today, after my prayer, I said I’ll open the Quran, seeking a sign from Allah, to help me understand. The page I opened exactly described my worst sin. I didn’t see forgiveness for my sin in the verse and it made second guess that I felt that my repentance was accepted.
I’m writing here because I can’t speak to people close to me about this. But I don’t see how to rectify this. I have wished I was never born. I have wished I left this earth before committing those sins against myself and the commands of Allah. I feel like I am living a life sentence for sins I made when I was practically a child. This darkness I feel is not normal. It wasn’t here when I repented. I don’t know how to escape it.
Salam, I'm a 25M in California, currently talking to a 25F. We've been getting to know each other for about 4 months, and I'm at the point where I want to make things halal and involve our families.
The issue is that my Muslim parents think I'm too young, that 4 months isn't enough time to really know someone, and that I don't make enough money to support a marriage in California. I currently make around $70k/year.
I genuinely want to approach this the right way and make it halal, but I don't have my parents blessing right now.
For those who have been in a similar situation, are my parents' concerns justified?
Should I wait and focus on my career, or is it reasonable to move forward with involving families and seeing where things go?
I turned 30 this year, and instead of feeling that I have built a life, I feel defeated, depressed and left behind.
I moved to Europe 14 years ago to study medicine and have lived alone ever since. Somewhere along the way, depression, loneliness and isolation took over. I gradually lost my ability to function and think clearly. I eventually left medicine and started studying something else. Now, at 30, I still have not finished my bachelor's degree. I only have my final project left, yet some days even getting out of bed feels impossible.
I have almost no friends. What I wanted more than anything was simply genuine companionship, but the relationships I found were mostly with men who saw my loneliness and vulnerability as something they could exploit. I was already exhausted, depressed and desperate for affection, so I tolerated things I normally never would have tolerated.
One long-distance relationship particularly damaged me. He played with my emotions, humiliated me, exploited how emotionally deprived I was, and I kept forgiving him and returning. At one point he told me, “If I wanted to, I could ruin your life.” Later, after leaving his poison behind, he mocked the idea that he had harmed me: “Did I tell you not to pray? How could I ruin your life when we live so far apart?”
I had spent years trying to live a disciplined and religious life in Europe. That relationship disturbed something inside me deeply. I made mistakes during a period when I was severely depressed, but I have since tried to reset my moral compass and protect my faith, dignity and upbringing.
I also tried Islamic marriage groups, hoping that approaching marriage seriously would be different. Instead, I repeatedly encountered men who seemed interested in entertainment, control or sexual gratification while using religion and marriage as respectable packaging. Some had spent years in casual or sexual relationships and suddenly wanted a “pure” woman, while apparently having no intention of holding themselves to the same standard.
I am tired of being someone's temporary experiment.
The painful part is that this goes much further back than romantic relationships. I don't remember ever truly feeling loved growing up. My brother has probably been the one person whose love I never doubted. My relationship with my parents became more loving later in life, but as a child I often felt unseen by my mother, while my father seemed preoccupied with his image and place in society.
Now my parents are getting older, I have only one sibling, and I am terrified of eventually losing the few people I still have.
I look around and see people living ordinary lives with their spouses, children, families and loved ones. Meanwhile, I am breaking down alone. I cry walking down the street, at the bus stop, in the supermarket. Sometimes I barely leave my bed. I struggle to find any emotional middle ground: one day I feel high and capable of rebuilding everything, then I spend days completely down again.
People say loneliness as though it is a temporary feeling. For me, it has been the structure of my life—from adolescence, through moving abroad, and into adulthood. Moving to another country only made it deeper and harder.
I am 30 years old and I am exhausted from carrying myself alone.
I don't need another person to tell me that “30 is still young.” I know that intellectually. What I don't know is how to rebuild a life after spending so many years surviving instead of living—how to finish my degree, regain my ability to function, build healthy friendships, protect myself from people who exploit vulnerability, and somehow believe that love and belonging are still possible for me.
I am tired. I genuinely don't know where to begin.
Hi,
I am F and met a M for marriage purposes (chaperoned ofc). I am a bit confused or indecisive about him and maybe I cant get an advise or two about this case.
Never met the guy before, only talked with his sister and that's why I asked him to have a face to face meeting. We had the meeting and I didn't like two things about him: he was good looking in general but he had visible cavities in his front teeth and I am very turned off by that. I can't imagine getting intimate with someone who doesn't take the proper care or doesn't care about his dental hygiene, so much so he can accept looking like that.
Some close friends told me that this thing is fixable and I can just let him know so he can take care of that issue and maybe get a dental job done. But I would be really embarrased to tell him to do that before marriage otherwise I am not going to marry him. I don't know what should I do.
And the other thing is that he didn't ask much or initiate topics in that date. His questions were not really that deep or vague, about things that don't matter much in marriage. I was the one to ask most questions, the most important questions about marriage. This kinda worries me because if he doesn't care that much about me to lead the conversation to the most important topics, then how is he going to be a leader for me in the marriage? It was like I was giving the masculine energy, and he was just shying away. I don't want things in the future to be like that. I want to be in my feminine energy, and have my husband as my leader, protector, provider. I'm also not the type to talk too much but I tried my best to initiate topics/convos because they were just being silent and awkward. Even his sister could ask me more questions than him. Maybe it is the first time and he is just nervous and couldn't do much but I still feel worried about it.
Should I already take a decision?
As I wrote a little while ago, I explained how my life is practically over. Because of mental illness and the extreme trial that my Lord has inflicted upon me, I suffer enormously. I feel like Allah no longer loves me. Before, I had a deep relationship with my Lord. But now, I feel abandoned. Is it my destiny to go to hell? Or maybe Allah will forgive me even if I end my life? I was diagnosed with schizophrenia. And no, I don’t have a jinn. We visited many mosques in Canada for ruqya rituals. We traveled from Quebec to Ontario. I don’t have a jinn. I cannot see the future. I lose every time. I am simply expressing my suffering, I don’t need help. Anyway, nobody can do anything to me without Allah’s permission. Destiny was against me from the beginning. Allah is the greatest, whatever happens.
I trully accept the end , Honeslty , we there Allah is angry or will forgive me , i just want to meet him asap. Idc about hell anymore , am already living in hell rn as we speak. Pls am tired of advices about being patient and about how Allah is the most kind and merciful. I know all this and I don’t want to hear it. Why did he create me , I was good before he created me , but in the same time , am happy that I exist , it’s just unfair that my soul is doomed to hell. Why, whyyy, why some of you guys will make it to paradise and not me. Are you guys just better , it’s not fair , I didn’t chose to have so many mental illnesses
This is in no way a suicidal thought. I'm at a point where I feel like I should die now. I was born and raised in Saudi Arabia, where naturally you are brought up in an Islamic environment where there are no mixed gatherings, and your values align with the country's lifestyle. I then moved to Pakistan 5 years ago because my dad was about to retire, and I had to pursue my higher education. But life in Pakistan wasn't easy because Islam here isn't the same as I grew up with. There is no accountability and no fear of God. 2 years ago, I had a nikkah with a man who was brought up in Pakistan. His moral and ethical values didn't align with mine it was mostly because of these dufferneces we broke it off.
My uncle, who lives in the US, had sponsored my mom. Their priority dates became current last month, so my family will probably move InShaAllah. The problem is I overaged and I won't be able to go along with them. honestlyI'm not sad about it. I've always been a very independent person who never asks for help, and it hasn't been difficult because I feel like Allah has made ways for me. I'm now planning to pursue a Masters in Germany because I don't want to be left alone in Pakistan. But living alone in Germany doesn't align with my values as I'll be living alone. But I also don't want to get married off just because of the fear of being alone. If I look at myself 5 years ago, and now I feel like I don't hold the same connection with Islam as I had, then. I do many things to fit in that are against Islamic values. I also feel that with the passage of time, I'm becoming heartless. I used to cry very easily, but it's very hard for me to cry now. I feel like it's not a good thing. I used to be a soft hearted person, but I'd never cry in front of ppl just someplace no one would know. Logically, it feels better if I die because I'm slowly drifting away from Islam, and I feel like there isn't any use for me in this world now and I'm living a very selfish life.
no judgement please
i pray dhuhr, asr, maghrib and isha as part of my routine,
i only have trouble waking up for fajr and i often switch off alarms or dont set up alarms at all, and its really bothering me, if i wake up, i cant fall back asleep and my sleep schedule gets messed up,
i sleep late (but not late enough that its more convenient to sleep after praying fajr) and i have to wake up early as well, so i have to make use of whatever limited number of hours i get to sleep.
if anyone is or was at some point in this situation kindly tell how u managed to solve this problem.
the only reason I’m wearing the hijab is because I’m scared of my mother she forced it upon me since I was like 13/14 and I never wanted to wear it dont get me wrong i love hijabis and I know it’s a farth but I want to love the hijab need to remove it it has to be only when im away from home because my mom would literally disown me
I was forced into it and I never felt like myself in all these years I’ve wore it i need to remove it not permanently but I need to love it to buy scarfs for myself to find my style to become a hijabi because I wanted to
Ive got no muslim friends and im having a mental health crisis. My mind is blank and I don't really know what to do to get out of this hole, ive got no islam around me and its making me fall deeper
Like the most, I can read Arabic but can't understand it. To those who have gone on this journey, what are some resources that helped you understand the Quran (ex. courses, books, websites). I was looking into Bayyinah and wanted to know if it's been helpful for anyone else? I don't mind paying for a subscription if it's worth it. I also tried the Madinah Books (just a couple of lessons) and found them a bit complex, but to be fair, I wasn't following a video course because I didn't know there were any. For context, I'm a full-time student and work part-time, so I can realistically dedicate 1-1.5 hours a day to Arabic. What resources or study approach would you recommend.
As salam aleykoum
I have been music-free for 10 months now, but for the past few months I have big urges to listen to music and it's not necessarily for the beat but for the lyrics. I managed to ignore those urges for now but I'm afraid it'll get harder and harder overtime. How do you manage to still avoid music?
PS: I've also removed most of my social medias so I don't listen to music at all, even the ones present in videos, so I know the urges don't come from that
I feel so conflicted about this. It started after I failed to achieve an academic... something. I felt despaired and with no goal didn't know what to do. In my days of boredom I think about my purpose of life and how I want to live it. I never wanted money or worldy things except maybe a really nice gaming PC but yea I just couldn't find my purpose of life and my new goal not that the old goal is lost. If the purpose of life is to worship God as in Islam why bother doing anything? Why not just spend your whole life in prostation? Why do we run after things and... I don't know what I am feeling if someone could put my condition into words.
Okay i know the proper way to make Dua is the praising of Allah initially, then sending blessings on our prophet PBUH, then ask for forgiveness and ending the Dua with Allah's praising and Duroods again.
What I'm asking for what Dua i should speak for Allah's praising, because I'm out of words actually, can't get anything that how should I praise? Because everything is below Allah and even praises are something that can't describe his superiority. What should I read to make him so happy that actually worth for his superiority and greatness. Any dua or anything to read that Allah loves so much as a praise for him.
Another thing about our prophet Muhammad SAW. Do i only have to speak durood? Or anything else too?
And last best dua for forgiveness. What powerful dua i can read that make allah forgive me?
I don't ask for my personal Worldy desires, i just want to connect with him and want to be his beloved servant.
Salam everyone,
I need genuine advice, please no toxic comments or negativity. I am trying stop viewing my position as a women in Islamic marriage as only serving intimacy exclusively.
I feel that in marriage, there is soooo much emphasis on how I have to be available to my husband at all times (obviously not when sick or on period). Like I’m not opposed to being intimate with my husband at all, it’s just that the context and wording used in Hadiths makes it seem over and over how intimacy is sooo important and right of husband. I don’t deny that it’s important. I feel that it’s the main purpose for a wife and makes me feel like my purpose is just for intimacy. It makes me resentful for some reason. I don’t want to say it makes me feel objectified.
I don’t know why it’s made me feel that men are crazily obsessed with intimacy beyond what my mind can comprehend.
I feel that I can’t have regard in this topic and am not allowed to have feelings or opinions on it. Especially when I view intimacy as something emotional and sensitive.
The other thing is, again there is so much emphasis on the rights of husband and how a wife should strive to make him pleased and it’s the key to jannah for a women and how the entire Hadith of prostrating (I’m paraphrasing and I know it’s forbidden to prostrate to him, it’s just the emphasis that I am mentioning). The reason I can’t comprehend this is because I respect and listen and love my husband right… but I’m stuggling to understand why he deserves (for lack of a better word) me to view him soooo highly. Like he brings a lot to the table but so do I. I’ve known him for a few years and I genuinely see him as an equal partner but I feel like I’m supposed to view him almost like a king. I can understand if these statements were made for our parents right? Cause they poured years and energy and their lives to raise and love me but I cannot understand why the husband takes so much authority when I actively contribute so much to his life as well.
Please help me change my perspective. I want to be able to fully accept what Allah SWT ordered but my heart is stubborn.
Salaam, I have a friend who lost a loved one recently (May Allah SWT elevate the person's ranks in Jannah, forgive their sins and accept their deeds, and make it easy for my friend's family) and I was thinking of helping my friend with Sadaqah-Jariyah on their loved one's behalf. I know there are many types of Sadaqah-jariyah that can be done, and I was thinking perhaps helping my friend donate quran, water bottles, and tasbih in the masjid on behalf of their deceased loved one. I'm not quite sure what the ruling on this is and how it can be done appropriately within the fold of Islam. If anyone has any experience with this, or has the knowledge / can point me to reliable resources I would really appreciate it. JazakAllah Khair.
EDIT: also, I was thinking of a well, but would it be appropriate to help donate a well to the needy with my friend experiencing the loss (so she is also able to obtain the reward), alongside other mutual friends, or would this action be more appropriate if this specific act of sadaqah-jariyah is performed by the family?
Ive lost all my imaan and faith in islam and Ive lost every bit of my inner peace, it has worsened my anxiety, etc.
I really wanna come back but for some reason the desire for islam has completely left my heart.
I really need help getting back my imaan and trust in Allah. Id like to hear any personal experiences (or something else) that really increased your imaan/tawakkul.
I'm a muslim woman. And I do love Allah with all my heart. I am going through a really tough phase for the last one year. And no matter how much I try to put my trust in Allah, I just can't picture it that things will get better. I feel like I'm questioning my own religion and losing myself and my faith. Did anyone ever went through the same situation? If so, please help by telling me your story. It will really help me a lot :)
I've been converting for two years now, and it's really hard for me to practice Ahl al-Sunnah. Everyone around me is Shia and Rafid, especially all the radicals and fanatics. I'm haunted by the thought of telling everyone about my decision, but I know it's a total mistake. My parents are already suspicious, because when they try to impose their ideology on me, I deny it and start arguing. It makes me angry and I start screaming. Yes, I know it's bad, but I can't control it. I just want to know your opinion on what to do? What should I do? Has anyone else encountered this?
So I am a waswas patient and recently in the past few months I kept discovering new things regarding the religion that only made me worry regarding my worships more and it only made me more angry each time, and on my way to the mosque I was researching something and might have found something else new which made me so angry I started thinking to my brain making sarcastic comments regarding how they said the religion was easy, and said it was the opposite of easy, and on my way when I got closer I found myself saying a bad word but I thankfully stopped myself from including Allah or the prophet in it.
At home when I got back I made dua for forgiveness and recited the shahada but am unsure if this is what I had to do, do I need to repeat the prayer I performed thinking I wasnt Muslim while doing it?
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Salam
I want to improve my connection with Allah and follow the sunnah of Prophet SAWS.
I’m looking for books, videos, podcasts or any other resource through which I can achieve my goal In’sha’Allah
I have the English translation of Quran (Glorious Quran)
Books I have/have read:
Both fiction and non fiction books are welcome.
English and Urdu language only.
Jazak Allahu Khair
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Hi, I had to take this job of 12 hours shift it's basically an Odd job and the place has Probably worst washing facilities I have Faced, and I need Time and tissues After Peeing to make myself properly clean(I don't know any other way to solve this problem ) and ready to pray but the place of course doesn't have it. Now back in place where I have accomodations for this job has the same washing facilities if not worse. I feel like I am praying with Najas and keep crying to Allah to Forgive me For the Situation I have Put myself into but I had no other way I need this for at least a month. Under these Circumstances how Should I pray My five times Salah ? (Please Provide confirmed references from scholars) Sometimes this feeling ( I shouldn't say feeling I know that I am not clean) Uncleanness will get into my head and I would miss Prayer. Apart from Giving me solution for this please Make Dua for me to get out of this situation
Assalamu alaikum everyone. I am planning to pray Istikhara for the very first time tonight. My relationship of soo many years recently ended after a very painful and difficult situation, but my heart is deeply attached and I am completely shattered but my heart still wants him in my life anyhow. I don't know why this feeling is so strong, why I am yearning this much, and why it hurts this deeply maybe because I love him a lot and poured my entire heart and prayers into him for years.
Since this is my first time, how do I go about praying Istikhara . Please guide me.
Thankyou.
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