Assalam alaykom! Both of my parents are.. incompetents at very low level.
Both of them are not good partners for each other, mom cheating on my dad with different men since I was a child, last time I faced her she pretended as that wasn't her and she doesn't do that and she will do better, she never apologise for anything instead she tries to find anyway to be correct even trying to gaslight me, her own son, so that she wins, at the end she changed her Facebook password and I still see the same Man in her conversations bubble. and dad always doesn't have money and thinks that paying his bills and providing for family are "gifts" not obligated on him, I told him if you can't handle your family why marry and bring us to the world, his reply is "it's my business", I told him about mom's bad habits and he attacked me instead lol, he told me to mind my own business and let her do whatever she wants.
I used to think that بر الوالين is very easy, We were taught from childhood that making our parents proud is the key to gaining Allah's pleasure, but now my biggest struggle is to make them proud and to be honest I don't think they will ever be.
They see me as investment and a way to correct their past mistakes and i will carve the way to richness, of course I want that, I want to repay them for what they did to me, but they made it feel like it's an obligation now more than something I want to do from my heart.
Mom can't keep her mouth shut at all, every little thing happens she goes straight to her sister and tells her everything, she thinks that we are more afraid of her sister and listen to her word more than her.
I don't have enemies in my life, 23 years and I never had someone who wants to sabotage my life, the only obstacle I started seeing these years are my parents.
They main goal is to see me in a foreign country, doing whatever to earn money doesn't matter good or bad, and send them what I earn.
I try to discuss this issue with them, telling them that I want to continue my studies (which i didn't because they wanted me to work) I want to stay in my country and have decent respectable life, I don't want to go to another country.
Suddenly they started having headaches and I am the "shaitan" of the family and a lot of yelling and they don't want to listen anymore.
She keeps pressuring me daily about anything that would get me to go to another country.
Seriously though How am I supposed to gain allah satisfaction if these two are my parents? Like there is must be something in Quran or any hadiith that will help understand my situation better? Because if there is not, I guess i signed my self free ticket to bottom of hell
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