December 2024

Assalamualaikum! Please bear with me, I just need some insight and advice :(

So I quite recently have become more attached to the religion but i realised i sort of have an unhealthy relationship with it? It was normal at first as in ive never felt sad by it but these past few months Ive been scrutinizing all of my actions in fear of them bringing bad things upon me because Allah might not like it, (i dont know how to explain it but I have also been super strict with my pronunciation during prayers like i would repeat the same line nonstop because it strictly has to be perfect or else im scared ill end up sinning through it).

Ive only decided to talk about it because i had a breakdown at 3am because i was scared of the punishment ill receive if i dont obey my parents, while yes it is normal, it got to the point where it affected me mentally. my dad usually tells me not to put my phone next to me while im asleep but I usually need to listen to asmr to help me sleep, (the same night my earbuds were dead) my dad caught my phone next to my bed while checking up on me, i freaked out because it was 2am and i was already calmed down, i wanted to just leave my phone next to me so i can still listen to it because i was so desperate for sleep.

and then i started imagining scenarios that Allah would punish me if i do it, like how my phone would blw my head off and things like that. i couldnt sleep, i cried and started saying “this is dad’s fault” because i was super frustrated and couldnt help but cry nonstop.

is there a way to stop this intense fear? And i honestly want to stop scrutinizing every little thing but people keep putting thoughts into my head so im really desperate for some sort of remedy because this thing has taken a bad toll on my mental health and connection with the religion. I would try to consult a mental health specialist but my parents aren’t really big into these mental health issues so I never had the chance :/ Jazakallah Khairan.

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As the title says I am not sure how to make Duaa, some people tell me to simply say ya rab(insert what you want),I also vaguely remember a video saying that one should do many things before asking for what one wants like asking for forgiveness, being thankful for blessings...etc. Also does one have to be emotional about it and believe it will be answered? sometimes I know that I need something or have a problem I'd like to be solved but I find myself unable to ask with urgency despite knowing how important it is, sometimes I ask for something but really doubt it'll happen. One last thing I hate is sometimes me asking for something I know will benefit me or will bring me relief, but part of me doesn't want it to happen because it wants to revel in hardship and misery(an odd kink I have) despite the logical part of my brain knowing and wanting it to happen because things will be difficult in case it doesn't.

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From the beginning of high school all the way to now, most of my weekends have been chilling at home alone. I have friends but i have only ever gone out with any of my friend groups over the last 6-7-8 years and handful of times.

I never got to experience a true close friend group who id meet up with, you know plan a trip or just go for a drive, themepark, never a select friend group.

I have been out together in these situations but its never ever been consistent, these social interactions of mine or hang outs felt like once in a blue moon.

Im thankful though it allowed me to seek out more of the deen.

But is it normal to be upset over ?

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Greetings. Dissarono is a type of alcohol. I just cosumed a pice of a dessert in wich a single shot of this drink was put (cuz of its good smell i think). Did i commit a sin? The taste of the drink is none existent and a shot is nowhere near enough to make someone drunk but I have doubt.

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I'm the first person in my family studying medicine and all my family is really happy about that (I am too), but I'm still in my first year and the fees is really really expensive (like 20k dollars annually). I mean my dad earns a decent amount of money Alhamdulillah, but he still doesn't earn in dollars and he's putting in a lot of his money into my education. He's old too now and I'm worried he might lose his job because his company keeps bothering him (like they still haven't renewed our IDs), and then obviously I'd have to leave medical school because we won't be able to afford it. I know I should trust in Allah's plan, but I really really wanted to pursue this and I'm just always feeling so guilty for putting this financial burden on my parents and anxious about what'll happen if my dad loses my job. Is there any duas or surah I can read to help with this, and just generally any advice to relieve this anxiety.

Btw my uni also doesn't provide any sort of financial aid for the type of seat I'm on and generally there's no scholarships here that would cover my tuition

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Salam all. first things first, sorry for my english, english is my third language. me and my gf we met each other when i graduated from school and we had great time with each other. after being best friends for 2 months i confessed about my feelings and i said if you dont feel in the same we could just end our friendship. surprisingly, she said that she also has the same feelings as me. so we have been dating for 2 months after that i had to move to the US to study. so we did long distance for 5 month. we would ft each other every weekend, we would watch shows/movies together despite time differences (12h). but since she was into religion she started praying for 5 times, so basically being good muslim. one time she was talking about her friend who was going to marry a guy without dating him(halal marriage) after telling about that story she said that if you really love me we have to stop being bf and gf cuz its haram. she also said that we cant speak/chat/call everything related to basic communication. after i finish my studies here in the US i can go back to my home country(Kyrgyzstan) we can do halal marriage. rn im writing this after 3 days after we separated. im feeling alone and i kinda lost point of my life. i dont know what to do rn. everyday when i wake up i always think about her, during the day still thinking about her. i dont know how long it is gonna take to heal from that. is there anybody who had same kind of situation, i would love to hear some advices.

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assalamualaikum, for some context: I met a female classmate who I developed a crush on (I'm a boy and we're both muslims) who eventually became a friend, at first I didnt know interacting in a non professional manner with non mahrams was haram but once I learned that it was I still kept interacting with her unfortunately, we made no physical contact and there was nothing romantic going on other than friendly chatting about our subjects and school, eventually when our classes and exams ended we texted each other less and less till we stopped talking for a while

the reason im making this post is I know shes going to malaysia for university and malaysia is an option for university for me as well, I'm having trouble finding affordable universities that accept my GED and I want to ask her for info and tips about universities there since theres a chance she knows something really important

should I do this or leave it? May allah forgive my past sins eitherway 😓

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So it is Problem if there Are invisible Drops of pee After going to the Toilet and I wanted to ask if I go to pee would I then have to wash myself because I dont know the area where it splashed and they Are invisible. So I basically wanted to know if These invisible Drops count as an impurity that you have to wash off or Not ? Also please give me the Sources to the anderes that you give me.

Jazakalla khair

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Im a little split.

You see, I try to do my prayers, but I feel as if Im doing it solely on purpose to make my life better.

Well, in many cases when I didn’t pray or thought that I didn’t need Allah (I am really ashamed of those times of rebelliousness for not reason) I always got F’s. But when I prayed I had only A’s.

So I learned my lesson. I know that I am dependent on Allah SWT and that I need his help to go through my life.

It’s good, actually. I do know that only Allah SWT can help me through my life.

But still..

I have a feeling that I make prayers only because of it..

I am afraid that it’s wrong and I do not want to pray solely on this reason.

On one hand, I know that I am dependent on Allah SWT, it’s good but on other I shouldn’t pray solely so my life gets better, I should do it, so I please Allah.

Please help me.

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Hi, I’m genuinely thinking about reverting to Islam. Though I have a question I want answered so I thought maybe someone here knows? My family isn’t Muslim or really religious, they kinda fit in the ‘we’ll see’ category, but I don’t want them to go to hell since they’re good people. Will they, purely based on that they don’t necessarily believe in Allah, go to hell?

Thanks:)

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The gist of the matter is that the government in my country had to pay me some money. However, they have overpaid me. I tried to alert the relevant government officers regarding it but I was brushed aside and nobody cared, because it isn't too large an amount. Now the money will be transferred to my account soon and I'm worried about what I should do. I have been thinking about donating it but that somehow feels like the easy way out. Should I try to go press them again to not send me the money or would donating it will be alright? The only reason I'm considering the donation option is that the govt here is notoriously corrupt and they make everything a hassle.

I have another question. IF I decide to donate it, would it be alright to mend the public road of my neighborhood? I'm concerned that since a better road benefits me as well, it would be a misuse of money that I did not earn? Any help would be really appreciated

*on - in the title

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i am this close to not eating anymore because almost everything is either maybe haram or haram in my country and even the stores arent trustable and no apps are trustable either bc they dont work, i am this close to either js eating it and not caring anymore or to not eat at all anymore until i starve, i just wanna live in peace

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My life is horrible and Allah doesn’t seem to be changing it. There’s people I know who do drugs, vape, talk to boys. Their life seems happy and Allah seems there for them. I try my best to pray 5x a day I try to avoid as much sin as possible. Sure I’m not a brilliant Muslim, I listen to music, I don’t pray as hard as I can etc. But I feel hopeless and suicidal and there’s nothing pulling me out of this hole I’ve fallen into. I think of killing myself every single day and the thoughts consume me alive. I hate my life because islamically I cant kill myself and if I make an attempt I’ll 99% most likely survive. It won’t even get to that point because I’m a coward and won’t make an attempt but it doesn’t take away from the fact genuine suicide is on my mind all the time and I can’t do anything. My life is horrible. My family isn’t there for me, I feel lonely with little close friends, I feel mentally messed up and feel as if no one cares for me (which is true I have literally no one). My grades are terrible too no matter how hard I make dua and how hard I try. I lost someone so close to me due to my mistakes and miss them gravely yet Allah won’t reunite us again no matter how hard I’ve cried for it and made dua for it. I feel unheard my connection with Allah seems low I pray and pray and yet I still want to die because my life won’t improve. What do I even do? I don’t even know where my future is going. I’m sitting my A levels in less than a few months and don’t even know if I’ll get good enough grades to go to university. I just want to move out and make friends and get good grades yet Allah can’t grant me something as simple as that my life is horrible and I’m losing hope day by day I can’t do this anymore

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So gog and magog are supposed to eventually come out and wreak havoc everywhere on earth. But how exactly can they do that with swords and spears and stuff like that ? We are gonna be so much more advanced than them we can just bomb them from the sky to oblivion with a decently sized airforce. Especially since their description doesnt make it seem like they are advanced people.

If it really is modern humanity vs 2 medival (albeit massive) tribes how do gog and magog win ?

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I always forget the prayers I msupposed to say so I have kept the same sheet of paper the past month to help me, my friend told me it’s haram and all my prayers haven’t been accepted is that really true. I reverted during COVID

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Wiping over cotton socks

As salamu alaykum everyone. I have had this question for years and I researched so much yet I still can’t settle on one ruling/opinion. I know there are different opinions in different madhabs over this issue, and my madhab (Hannafi) is known to be pretty strict over this specific issue with conditions that usually todays standard cotton socks don’t meet. I’ve attached this video where Sheikh (at 5:32) says that that the concept that socks/whatever we are wiping on, has to be thick and made of leather isn’t authentic? Meanwhile I’ve read so many writings where they state the opposite and my brain is all mush now.

Since I find this possibility of wiping over something instead of washing the feet really convenient and helpful, especially when out and about, I would very much like to apply it in my life. The issue however is that, as I’ve stated, most of the things I follow in islam are of Hannafi madhab since I was raised in it, and I understand that blindly following a single madhab isn’t a must or even recommendable, and I wouldn’t like that, and I would take any ruling contrary to my madhabs if there is stronger evidence. But thee reason I’m mentioning my madhab is, in this case, even after researching a lot, I still can’t understand where the evidence is stronger, so I’m afraid of being a pick and chooser of more lenient rulings, those according to my likings, which usually come from different madhabs, so even though there’s lots of opinions both pro and against this topic, I’m afraid to step out of my madhab even if I would obviously like to because of the convenience.

So reason why I’m posting this is hoping I can get some opinions, from someone of knowledge who can state evidence both for and against this or/and conclude which one is stronger, so I can finally decide which side to follow and never think about this issue again. If the evidence against is stronger I would deal with it and keep following my madhab and only wipe over thick and waterproof material, and if it was weaker I would obviously be happier but my ultimate goal with this post is to just be able to ease my mind, settle on a ruling and stop thinking about it, because anyways pleasing Allah swt and not being sinful for this is the most important, no matter if the ruling I must end up following was stricter or more lenient.

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I had a friend who was new to Islam and he he started to become very good Muslim and I could see the change in him and he used to pray everyday and he didn’t miss a prayer. He told me however when he’s at home(he lives alone but visits regularly) he’s unable to pray on the right times because his family is quite toxic because and can’t really pray around them because it will just get awkward and he feels like it would not be a good prayer if he does downstairs with the family, so sometimes he has to wait until The middle of the night so you can catch up on all his prayer and actually pray properly will Allah punish him for not doing the prayers on time, under this circumstance.

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Hello,

This might be a weird post here. But I am writing because I have a friend who is muslim but in the country we live in she doesn't know any men who share her belief and who practice her religion. Where/how can she meet this man?

Any suggestion will be appreciated. :)

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I have a knuckle cracking problem and I do it all the time everywhere. In class, eating food, out with friends. I crack my ankles my fingers my wrists over and over again. it feels haram to do but during prayer it’s when I do it most for some reason and I can’t stop I physical feel so so disgusting if I don’t ? Like as if there’s something that needs to be cleaned / done and I can’t rest until I’ve cracked all the knuckles and I have to wait until it comes back… is this haram ??

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Question regarding ayah in surah Al Ghashiyah

In the 24th ayah it’s mentioned that hellfire is the major punishment for a sin committed, and minor sins are disasters in this life and torments of the grave. So does this mean that a person would be punished for their wrongdoing (if not major) in this life in the form of come crisis? If so, then if a person is suffering in this life is it because he has committed some sort of sin, and is being punished for it?

If I’m going through tough times is that a punishment for something I’ve done?

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I was praying isha, calmly, and peacefully. Then I made a mistake, and at the last rakah, I forgot to make the sahv sajda, and then, I made mistake with the sahv sajda. I got mad at shaitan, Because I was short of time. Then I started praying while mad and prayed it fastly. Am i sinful? I asked Allah to accept my previous isha, and if not, Accept it like how I prayed my previous isha( calm and peacefully, slowly) Do i have to pray my isha the 3rd time? And how do i get rid of the shaitan's distractions?

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Salaam Alaikum, I’m a recent revert since last year & graduated hs in 2023. I have yet to learn more about Islam so I seek guidance (I only know the 5 pillars, 5 prayers & read half of the Quran, I have only done 1 dua) I’ve been Christian most of my entire life but found myself here; I currently need to help my mother, she needs to rent out my room for cash & I was already planning on moving but she’s been forcing me more (threatening to make me pay rent around 800$ if I stay past February) I would but unfortunately I want to become a real estate agent in California (I live in Virginia) I have many friends who live there & my girlfriend (Christian & soon to be my wife after I move out) there to support me but I do not want to be a burden towards them, so I denied their help; stupid but the whole point of me moving out is to break my bad habits & truly understand what it’s like to have nothing left to lose, my family has been poor their entire lives & seek no retribution, I’m here to break that cycle & the more I’m stuck with their environment the more it traps me & overall makes me lose focus. I’ll be going to the gym 24/7 (box at 4am, weightlift at 8pm) work at least 40hrs a week, I have trading & crypto with me along with my real estate license which I have to take the exam in person, all of my clothes & items will be put into a storage unit, I’ll be shipping my motorcycle to a transport company (that will be my daily commute). All I need is a place to sleep for 7-8 hours a day. Do mosques offer shelter for the homeless? May anyone offer me advice? Thank you.

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Guys im a bit upset bc im feeling morally conflicting inside.

I found a way I can get £100k - 500k no tax but it’s a little ethically wrong and very spiritually wrong as well as it involves indulging in filth.

But I’ve always seen ppl making so much money and I don’t wanna be broke anymore. I wanna get money (who doesn’t) but ugh idk if this is the way I wanna do it :/

I feel very conflicted and maybe I won’t go with it otherwise why have I written this post. I guess I’m writing to get discouraged to do it. Not sure. Pls help out guys im really conflicted

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Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters,

I am a Muslim teenager from India, and I am going through a very tough time. I am currently in 9th grade, preparing for my board examinations, which will be held next year. At the same time, I am experiencing strong storms of emotions and genuine love, along with the fear of Allah. I don’t want to take any wrong decisions.

I am writing this post to release the pain in my heart.

I have a female cousin from my mother’s side. She is very good and supportive, like an elder sister to me. She makes me feel very comfortable, and I find her to be a safe space where I can discuss any topic. She is little bit older than me.

In the past few weeks, we have had long conversations on Instagram. During this time, we discussed many topics, including marriage, relationships, sexual urges, and other sensitive issues that are hard to talk about openly in Indian society.

Somehow, during these conversations, I unknowingly started developing feelings for her. I didn’t realize it at first, but eventually, I found myself deeply in love with her. By the time I noticed, it was too late—I had already fallen into the deep valleys of love, affection, and attachment with her.

Words cannot explain my love for her—it is unconditional and connected to the soul. I am unable to describe it properly, but I will try my best.

I think about her 24x7. No matter how much I try, I cannot focus on anything else. I can’t concentrate on my studies, I can’t play games, and I can’t even code anymore. My brain is not working properly, and my hands and feet feel cold all the time.

I have lost my appetite; I can’t eat or drink anything. Even my favorite food, which I once fought for as a child, doesn’t appeal to me anymore. My father is worried about why I am not eating.

I feel lost in my feelings for her. My heart feels abnormal, and my brain is constantly stressed. These feelings are so intense that I can’t bear them.

This is not about sexual urges, which can be controlled through fasting. These feelings are deeper—pure, unconditional, and spiritual. I wrote these poetry lines to express my emotions for her:

"I fell in love with her soul, not her body. I fell in love with her words, not her voice. I fell in love with her thoughts, not just her heart. I simply want to keep talking to her, whether it's day or night, whether it's a sunny day or a rainy one. I want to spend my time and my life with her, endlessly enjoying our conversations."

I have both good news and bad news, and strangely, they are the same thing.

In Islam, the only way to be with a non-mahram is through nikaah. She is my cousin but also a non-mahram due to some complications in our family tree. This means I can marry her in the future when I become independent enough to manage both of us—perhaps in 5-6 years, In Sha Allah.

But the bad news is that I can’t talk to her just to satisfy my feelings. If I talk to her, it must have a purpose, and I must behave like a younger cousin. This restriction, which I respect, is making me break down emotionally.

Talking to her gives me peace and satisfaction, but now I must refrain from such interactions to follow the Islamic rulings. This is not the kind of peace or satisfaction you might think—it is pure, deep spiritual love from my side.

I am continuously asking Allah for guidance, begging Him to provide me peace, and crying to Him to hold my hand in this situation. I am also praying to Allah to fix my nikaah with her and send her into my life as my life partner.

Right now, I feel like I am breaking apart. My heart is full of cracks, and only Allah and one close friend know about my situation. Even she doesn’t know about my feelings. My parents don’t know either, and I am forced to act as if nothing has happened.

But inside me, powerful storms are raging. If Allah doesn’t guide me and hold my hand, I fear I will drown in this storm.

Please remember me in your duas

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Aslalam Alikum wa Rahmat Allah Everyone, I seem to be really troubled whenever I get back to my room, I am a student in Germany and I leave my home very early after Fajr prayer for College, and I usually pray and do my Dikr when I'm outside, but when i get back home, my man just falls down and I feel like I don't have the well to pray or do anything!

As if Shaytan is in my room??? What shall I do jn this situation?

Baraka Allahu Fikum Everyone

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asalamalakim brothers and sisters,

I have a question about nikah, based on my knowledge, a nikah in Islam is a marriage contract, but my family are saying that once the nikah is done the wife and I can’t have intercourse or really sleep together in a room yet until a wedding or celebration is done to fully complete the nikah?

I never honestly heard this from anyone, is this some culture practice or Islamic belief?

Edit: So now if I do the nikah with my fiance and all that I can’t get close to her ? Isn’t she my wife then after the nikah is done?

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I wash my ears right before I get out of ghusl but today I forgot that. Just as I was washing my hands after getting out I remembered that I didn't wipe my ears so I went back and wiped them. It didn't even last a minute for me to realise and wash them. But in the end i left the place i took ghusl. I left bath. So is my ghusl valid?

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السلام عليكم

I’m trying to seek some advice from people in this channel bithnillahitaala.

I am an American muslim male in my twenties and believe that I’ve reached a point in my life where I need a change of scenery in order to improve my mental and physical health. To give some background, the area that I grew up in doesn’t have a particularly strong Muslim presence. Furthermore, my masjid doesn’t have an imam, which has made it difficult for its younger members to actively seek knowledge.

I’m currently exploring the possibility of moving to a new location within the US that has a large muslim community. If Allah wills, it would be nice to attend masajid that have sizable congregations for salah, to converse with reputable (not celebrity) imams, and to feel comfortable going out while dressed in Muslim attire.

I have the feeling that this type of community is mainly limited to some familiar locations in the US (Chicago, NYC/NJ, Detroit area, etc), but I’m open to all suggestions.

It would be nice to find a place with Arabic speakers (exact nationality doesn’t really matter) if possible.

My marital search has been sidetracked for a while for personal reasons, but I plan on picking up the pace soon inshaAllah. I’m open to the idea of marrying a niqabi woman, so it would be nice to find a place where she can feel comfortable while going out.

Some facts about me: - I don’t have a large family, so I’m not really tied to a particular place - Remote job - Conservative muslim (strives to the Quran & Sunnah upon the understanding of the 3 favored generations)

When offering suggestions on potential places, I would really appreciate it if you could recommend specific neighborhoods or masajid.

May Allah make it easy for all of us in the west to be steadfast on our deen.

جزاكم الله خيرا

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