I recently met a guy in my weekly evening professional class. We’ve only known each other for about a month, and while we’ve chatted casually after class, I’ve noticed sometimes he chooses to sit next to me and other times not. I tend to initiate conversation more, but he seems comfortable when we talk.
Our convos have been friendly and with no flirtation. What surprised me is how much we actually have in common. We go to the same mosque and even attended the same school for a few years. Red string theory?!
The thing is, I find myself becoming attached quickly (I struggle with limerence), and so I did an istikhara. I asked Allah (swt) that if this relationship is good for me, to make it easy; and if not, to protect my heart and let me down gently, and to guide me to someone better.
Side note: I prayed tahajjud a couple of months ago and journaled about the type of husband I am looking for. What his family is like, where his family lives/is from, what he looks like, how he acts, etc. It wasn't a superficial or materialistic list at all. I just read that entry last night and it sounds exactly like him! I feel like it's fate...
^ this is also making me feel more attached
Since the istikhara, I haven’t really noticed any “signs.” My feelings are still the same, but his energy towards me hasn’t changed — neither more nor less. If an istikhara was positive, would I expect to see things move forward more clearly by now? Or does this stagnant connection mean he’s not the one?
One odd detail I noticed...he drives the same type of car I had a serious accident in, which left me with daily back pain. I swore I’d never marry someone with that car. Do you think that could be a sign, or just coincidence?
I’d love to hear how others interpret their istikhara experiences. Do you look for external signs, changes in feelings, or just trust the ease/difficulty of how things unfold?
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