I was always skeptical about the way my parents raised my younger brothers [mainly] and then [masculine culture] as well. I always wanted to know why my parents never raised my brothers to be responsible as a human being, have their own share of household work , and help in small ways like clean their own rooms , clean their dishes but things escalated to not care of hygiene. I remember when I was a little girl , I asked my parents [they are high educated people ] why am I the only one who gets yelled at when things are messy. I remember them saying, cz they are men , and it's the girl's job to clean and boy's job to do men's work . Little they know that after 20 years , they raised the most toxic, aggressive, problematic,narcissistic, ungrateful men . And because of this , my parents and I are dealing of the consequences, our house becomes toxic , without respect, always dirty, and even when I help it's never enough. My brothers always play the victims and they never respected me as an elder sister, I remember my parents taking there sides everytime and never give them a hard time when they cross their boundaries and things escalated to even disrespecting their own parents, not taking anyone advice, and not even praying. When my parents try to talk to them now they never listen and alwaaayss plays victim they will give answers like [ I won't do this because remember when I was 2 years old ny father yelled at me ], [ I am not a girl to clean after taking a showe ], [ I won't go to do that thing because my dad told me to do it ,] neither should I say they don't do anything besides gaming 24/7 at the age of 20 something. What I wanted to say is , that rising the Alpha men u thought u will be satisfied with will actually makes you suffer the consequences in the future. If there is no respect all the family will be dysfunctional, unhappy and they can't coexist. My parents way of talk is also dysfunctional, it makes me feel guilty sometimes, after all of this years I became avoidant of my own family, the house I am living never felt relaxing, everyone looks mad . I know in the future, I will be gone and live in my own , but please stop normalizing gender favoritism , let little girls live their lives in peace.
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