Worried about marriage

Assalamualaikum,

I'm in my early twenties right now but I know that within the next 10 years I'll need to think about marriage. Many of my cousins have gotten married close to my age so I realize that I don't have an awful lot of time left. I spent a lot of my life deciding that I didn't want to get married but I realize that down the line I'd like to start a family so I wouldn't feel alone. The problem is I really don't feel comfortable getting an arranged marriage. I've tried in the past to learn more about it but to me it seems very formal. For example, what if I end up realizing early on the woman I'm with is incompatible with me and regret the decision?

On the other hand, I don't know how else to find a girl. I can't simply go up to girls I'm interested in or even friends and ask to marry them (it sounds silly but this is the only other alternative I can think of). Dating's out of the question too, so it seems that arranging it is the only route.

Any other brothers or sisters feel anxious about this stuff? Anyone had mixed feelings like mine and ended up finding a halal solution?

JAK

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