Salaam guys,
Me and the girl im engaged to can't do our nikkah cause parents want us to wait for a few more months cause covid and whatnot. We've already slept with each other hundreds of times and to be honest we've both done some crazy stuff and drugs and hood rat stuff in our past and neither of us is exactly "pure". We both have real faith in God despite all this and really do love our lord. However, Im not going to delude myself into thinking we're going to be chaste until our nikkah a few months away. I really have tried for years to control my lusts but to be honest I really got no control over that stuff man.
Under these circumstances would it be appropriate to have a secret Urfi Marriage (they do that stuff all over egypt) for a lil bit so that Allah at least knows we are cognizant of his presence? I really want to live in the light of god, I want Allah to be pleased with my and I know that this is something i can't control. I read that if you both aren't virgins anymore you dont need a wali for the Urfi Nikkah.
Thanks in advance guys. I appreciate it a lot. I KNOW I DID BAD STUFF, I ADMIT IT AND I AM REPENT, but i know i WILL do it again that door is open and its not easily closed.
TLDR: can't control my lust, gonna marry this girl no doubt, can we have a little secret Nikkah Urfi before our real one.
Where all the Harlem brothers at!
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