Salam everyone,
I am an unmarried woman in her 30s who lives at home with her parents. We have had a family friend staying with us for the past several months; this man is an imam and is in his late 80s; he unmarried and lives on his own. I have known him all my life and he has always been a father/grandfather figure to me and has referred to me as his daughter.
On new years eve, all of us were watching television but my parents went to bed before the midnight countdown. The family friend wanted to stay and watch the countdown so I stayed with him as I felt bad for him to be left alone. I will not go into too much details but during the countdown he held my hand and asked me to stand with him. I found it strange but I took it as a grand/fatherly gesture. I stood up and he hugged me, began caressed my face and then attempted to pull my face up to his to kiss me on the lips. I pulled away in shock and sat back down. I was wondering if I had misinterpreted his actions as this was clearly haram, and entirely unexpected behaviour especially for an imam, but he then took my hand and began to caress it. I felt extremely uncomfortable and said I was going to sleep and he stood up to hug me again. He kissed my forehead, and then kissed my nose, and then moved his lips downwards again and tried to pull my face up to kiss my lips again. Shocked, I pulled away again and told him no, and he attempted one more time and pulled me and my face toward him. I pulled away again and told him no once more and ran up to my room.
I feel utterly disturbed, shocked, and dismayed by what happened. I have not told my parents about this as they will definitely ask him to leave and I feel badly about this happening. I have been staying in my room as much as possible ever since. I have only seen him when I come down for family meals but I do not make eye contact or say anything. He seems to be very distressed himself as he has not been sleeping or eating much but I am not sure if this is out of regret or if he is afraid I will tell my parents. He is only expected to stay with us for another month or so and he will go back to his home. I am very unsure of how to handle this or what to do and am seeking some advice. Nothing like this has ever happened before. This is an imam who has always provided me and my family (and others) with Islamic guidance, and here I am now asking for advice regarding his behaviour. I am still in shock and trying to comprehend all of this, so any guidance would be much appreciated. Thank you for reading.
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