So, my mother has always claimed that sons are nothing. They don't do anything for children and basically are of no use. Loves her daughters and cannot hear anything bad about them.
Ever since I started working, I have been giving her every penny I earned for years. Only asking her for what I needed on occasions that I did. Never was a spendthrift anyway.
Grew up. Was getting married gave her a pretty hefty amount to get married so she can take care of the expenses. Eventually found out that none of the amount was used as my dad paid for the walima and the jewellery came from my grandmother. Never asked for the amount back.
Fast forward today, ten years later. I am in need of some cash. My dad has passed away and a left a tidy sum for everyone and not to mention she gets SS income. I ask her for the money I gave in marriage and she claims I am accusing her of stealing her money. I say, no, if you don't want to pay or don't think you need to pay me, just say it and I will forget all about it. She says no, that it's now a matter of her pride and that she can't die without paying me back. I say, don't worry about. If you can't remember where the money went, leave it. I will consider it Sadaqah and forget all about it. She is now adamant on paying me back.
Most of the money she has given away to her daughters. The jewellery which came from my father's side of the family she has given away to her daughters claiming they were given to her by my father. Let me also mention that she does keep telling everyone how bad my father was and that he never even bought her clothes for Eid. But when I said that the jewellery came from my paternal grandmother and should be distributed evenly amongst my father's children, she says the jewellery was a gift from him to her and she can do with it whatever she likes.
I basically don't care about all the money I gave in her keeping from my jobs or any other times. But I am being led to believe that I am an insolent son who is greedy, accusing my mother of stealing my money which I gave to her for safekeeping and handling expenses for my marriage in my time of need. I didn't even ask her where, if at all, it was spent. I just asked if I can have it at this time when I need it most. Sorry if this sounds like a rant, but I feel guilty af, right now.
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