This will be long -- my apologies.
I have a young friend, born overseas I believe, but raised in America. He's in his early 20s. (I'm old enough to be his mother.) He recently married a young lady in his home country and after a long wait, was able to bring her here. There is a language barrier which they have made a lot of progress overcoming. Still, it may be that the cultural barrier is a bigger problem.
He, like most American guys of his age, is really into gaming in his leisure time. He respects and follows Muslim law and custom while she is perhaps more devout and traditional. He and I are friends and often talk; I guess I'm like an eccentric auntie to him?
Anyway, now they are expecting. He tells me that when he gets home from work, he wants to relax and play video games, but she is not interested in gaming. I understand this. However, she has been home all day and would probably (certainly) like to spend some time with this man to whom she is married and whose child she will bear. They both have cellphones and are of course immersed in modern culture.
I guess what I want to know is, how have the expectations of Muslim/Middle Eastern wives changed in modern times? Is she likely to be dissatisfied with the limited level of interaction they have? She has left her home and family to come and live in a new country which is not necessarily very welcoming or kind. I hold this young man in high regard, and with great affection, and I want them both to be happy.
Are there things I can suggest that they can do together? What advice would you give? I recognize that my advice as an American can only address things from a western perspective.
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