Salam aleikum. I'm converted since i was 19 years old i'm 23 now. I'm married and currently 21 weeks pregnant. My family is atheist. My husband and i are both practicing, from the moment i converted i pray 5 times a day and so does my husband. Now, because i am scared of my families reaction i don't wear a hijab yet, i'm very sensitive and can't handle much stress, i am however trying to figure it out. Luckily my husband is very understanding regarding this since i don't leave the house very often and he knows i'm working on my insecurities.
Now we do disagree with something else... So as i said my family is atheist. My mother is so happy that i'm pregnant she's already daydreaming to have the baby with her one day a week. My husband does not want this. Because she has little chihuahuas, because she's atheist and because she eats pork, ... I honestly don't mind if she would have the baby sometimes for a short time, but he doesn't want my mom to spend even a minute alone with the baby. She has done alot for us and i don't know how i have to tell her this since i know this will cause a unbearable situation and hurt her. He already said that if she doesn't agree he will get angry with her. I always say that that's not how a muslim handles a situation. He said that it's our child and a child is fitnah if you don't raise it well. I know for a fact that my mother will listen to me when i tell her not to feed it pork or non halal meat, to not play music, ... she has proven multiple times that she respects our decisions. and when it's a newborn baby theres not much she can do wrong anyway. So i really don't agree with him. If that's the case the child can't go to school either because we live in Belgium and theres not much islam around in schools. Now where he really made me angry is the fact that he would let the child sleep over with his sister because she's muslim. But when we married she was the one that insisted to play music while we specifically said we don't want to have music at our wedding. And the moment my husband left she put the music on and wouldn't stop although i asked her to stop. So to me that's a stubborn muslim and i think that's much worse to leave a child there because that's a bad example. At least with my mother i can learn our child to not follow the kafir way. And i also feel like if he denies my whole family to have the child it's not reasonable that his family has the priveleged. This will cause tensions.
He doesn't agree with me. I feel conflicted. I can't talk about it anymore with him because he feels like i have to obey him and he's angry that i don't agree with him. And i don't want to make him mad because he has severe anger problems sometimes and gets very unfair when he gets to that point. ( meaning he starts yelling and breaking stuff, calling me mean names but he would never hurt my physically. I'm used to it, he can't change it and he's not a bad person either because of this issue)
How can i handle this situation as best as i can as a muslim wife? And what does islam say about this situation because i can't find anything about this.. being converted i stumbled in so many situations/conflicts and apart from the hijab situation he just doesn't understand how it feels for me.
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