I'm (f) and have been speaking to (m) for about 5 months now. We had an issue or 2 with him lying to me but we overcame that and I still considered him because he apologized alot and had me gain his trust back. We have the same values, the same religious views, same way of wanting to raise childern and he will be a doctor soon and we are the same ethnicity. He works out and prays 5 times a day as well. Just one thing he said he will try his best but can't guarantee a separate accommodation for me. And we will certainly have to live at least 3 to 4 years with his parents in the beginning. He only has his parents and a sister My age and even tho I really didn't want this I decided to over look it because he has all these good qualities, and just hope we'll be able to afford a separate place. He said he's the only son so he does want to care for and pay for his parents the rest of his life, and if he does live separately he wants to live 5 or 10 min away from them. He lives in the uk and I'm from the US.
Just one thing he doesn't really make me laugh. His jokes are mostly about a second wife or joking to "annoy me". I do make him laugh but I don't even think my own jokes are that funny. I have siblings and friends where I laugh really easily and have alot of inside jokes with. Me and him have no inside jokes. Idk if it's a compatability issue or just a humor issue. Is humor really that important in a marriage? Sometimes I don't even feel like talking to him because I feel like he doesn't get me or really understand me I guess. But I also don't want to let go of someone with the right core values and he has done alot to nake it easy for me to introduce him to my parents as well which I don't think anyone else will do for me since my parents are really strict.
TL;DR: we share values and he’s serious about marriage, but there are red flags: past lying, no guaranteed separate housing, and weak emotional/humor connection. I feel misunderstood and torn between compatibility concerns and not wanting to lose someone who checks major boxes and works with my strict parents.
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