I notice our community seems to focus on politics related causes and dawah related topics(like big mosque in this city, Muslims praying outside here, Islam in this city, etc....), but we never seem to talk about the biggest issue facing us which is 'cool' culture and the domination of 'cool' people in most our affairs. By cool culture I mean being cool in the eyes of society. In my country America for example, being cool beings fun, bubbly, sharing your life/beauty on social media, having lots of friends, being likable(at any cost), being very attractive, having done 'cool' things(attending concerts, going to parties, hookah shops with opposite gender friends, making money, getting prestigious career), and being popular. It seems to in both Muslim and non-Muslim countries, being 'cool' is greatest deciding factor in being accepted by society and having a good/easy life. In my local Muslim community, the 'cool' people dominate the affairs of the mosques/community centers. They tend to be cliquish and refuse to involve non-cool people. They tend to indulge in haram activities(hookah, mixing, pre-marital relations, smoking illegal substances, etc...), and they also run the youth/young adult affairs in the mosques. They consider people who haven't done these things or actively indulge them as losers or boring people. And will scare away non-cool people from wanting to be involved in the mosques or giving their input on our state of affairs.
They also tend to get the most networking opportunities and have the easiest time with marriage. The girls tend to have interest in the cool guys, and lower their standards for marriage to be married to them. So the guy will have a huge sexual past, does drugs and so forth, but he is cool/popular and his family has good reputation because other cool people like cool people, and will say good things about each other, regardless if its true or not, and the girl doesn't press the cool guy on his past or just abandons her requirements and accepts his past, because having the cool guy is more important than anything else.
My overall point is that cool culture cannot coincide with Islamic lifestyle/character. People's drive to be cool is what is causing people to abandon Islamic principles, usually out of need to feel included/accepted/loved either and this happens by observations of the state of the people and/or peer pressure. And when you abandon Islamic principles/character for sake of cool culture/being cool, and make it the greatest deciding factor in being accepted/wanted by people, than the acceptance of people comes before acceptance of Allah, and that is why you have injustice, prevalance of zina/haram, cliques, looking down on people, corruption, lack of victory, etc.... I realize many people just focus on political issues and throw blame at governments. I wonder if they realize governments are made up of our own people, and those people are cool people, and they get into positions of influence because cool culture and being cool is cherished over anything else. And in order for real change to happen, we need to address cool culture and the notion of being 'cool' and start getting people to be humble again, and not abandon Islamic ideals/principles, such as no zina, no mixing, smoking illegal substances, attending concerts, doing dances on social media, sharing beauty on social media, not forming a clique in the mosque and making everyone else feel uncomfortable, being too picky with who to be friends with, etc.....
So, I wonder, why isn't this being addressed? Do people think we can remain occuppied by cool culture and drive to be cool and still be a blessed Ummah? If you are gonna argue that, please tell me where the Prophet's 'cool' people, and chasing dunya, attending concerts, mixing with opposite gender, posting their photos all over social media to get likes, accepting DM's from opposite gender or sending DM's to girl on social media trying to 'score' with many of them? Were the prophets so concerned with prestige and being considered cool, even if it meant covering up corruption in order to remained liked by their local community(like mosque employees/imams/scholars) using money to open up businesses and seemingly into the whole roles for money/social status?
Do we believe all that matters in our community is for us to get powerful, spread in numbers, and most more 'feel good' content and ignoring the fact that many Muslims today, if not the majority, subscribe to cool culture, and cool culture worship is what's causing high rates of zina, corruption, oppression, indecency, alcohol and drug consumptions, cliques, arrogance towards others, lying, etc....??
When will we address that the number issue facing us are character related problems, and all political/social issues derive from character-related deficiency's, which are developing because of attachment to cool culture and being cool. I am bothered by 'cool' people dominating the social, political, and religious scenes all around the world. They live both of best worlds in their eyes(by indulging in luxuries/desires of this life, even haram ones, and same time presenting themselves as righteous people in the local communities, which makes networking/marriage easy for them, such as popular/cool guy who did zina all college but its overlooked because he's cool or popular and he seeks a good girl who waited for marriage and ends up marrying her), and seem to get what they want. While the sincere God fearing people who aren't 'cool' are slandered as average religious people or below average, because they keep their obedience to Allah secret and don't feel need to show off their righteousness because they are righteous in first place because they sincerely worship God and not people, and are not pursued for marriage because they aren't 'cool' or 'popular'.
That is messed up and I believe it needs to change. But, it won't change if we don't take action to change it, by calling out cool culture and cool people, and asking people to observe good character and not abandon Islamic values to be accepted as 'cool'. And the non-cool people need to be allowed a shot at influencing our communities without being harassed or being told they hurt peoples egos/feelings for speaking the truths and can't be allowed to influence the community as a result.
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