Assalam alaykum everyone.
So to start off, me and my father are not very close. I've never felt the real presence (no i don't mean physically) of my father in my life. He's done terrible things to my mother, sister and me. For all my life, he was barely spending any money for the household while my mom had to work full times to provide for us. She used to pay for groceries, education, bills and everything. He had also physically abused all 3 of us years ago. He's also committed zina multiple times.
When i was 16, I worked for a company in the summer. After I got my first salary, when I got back home, he insisted I give him my full salary right away or he'd kick me out. It was settled when my mom intervened and made him agree that i keep some pocket money with me while i gave him all the rest.
All this behaviour becuase of one thing: his complete obsession (I would want to use the word worship, astaghfirullah) of money.
Recently, hes been getting old. He started paying for my education. My mom pays for my sister's. And all i can think about its because this is the time where he will need us the most because of his age.
That's not the point of my post though. I was just trying to give you guys a bit of background info.
I hesitate to use the word hate when I want to describe my relationship with him as i think that it's a very strong word. I definitely do not have any affection towards him thats for sure i guess. He's just another stubborn person driven by his lust and desires in this world.
I am almost done with university. I was thinking of moving out after a couple of months just out of sheer disgust of the man I call my father and all the trauma he has caused me, my mom and my sister. I am not planning to cut ties. I just can't stand his money/lust driven mindset anymore. I plan on helping him financially and just keeping in touch with him on the phone.
Is what I am planning to do permissible after all the things he did to my family? Am I sinning for not "loving" my father after all this? This man will never change whatever we try with him which is why he divorced his ex wife for the same reason (obsession with money). I don't know if this post is suitable for this sub but I just wanted to get some advice from my brothers and sisters here.
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