I live at home (working on moving out), my father is narcissistic and very abusive. He has severe anger issues. He yells, curses, and calls me terrible names on a regular basis. In the past I used to silently endure these tirades because I believed I was practicing sabr. But I've been learning about boundaries lately and now I want to stand up to him (respectfully) and enforce consequences for treating me badly. He yells at me almost everyday. He calls me useless, lazy, stupid, wh*re, evil, munafiq, going to jahannam, etc. He is deeply misogynistic. I don't really care anymore about having a relationship with him, I just want the verbal abuse to stop.
If I'm getting yelled at/belittled and I say "please stop talking to me in this way or I will have to remove myself from this conversation" and proceed to do so.... is this Islamically acceptable? If I leave the room in the middle of his anger attack? Or just walk out of the house? Is that a sinful thing to do? If a parent is damaging your mind and heart with their behaviors do you still have to be patient with them?
My father often uses religion to manipulate me. Whenever I ask him to please stop treating me badly he gets offended. He talks about the status of parents and how they can never be criticized by children. A child who criticizes their parent is a sinner. He says that according to Islam, I have to have sabr and endure whatever my parents put me through because they were patient with me when I was a baby. If I attempt to explain how much he is hurting me he just threatens me with jahannam and/or curses me. It's so exhausting.
His behavior is destroying my mental health. He doesn't listen to my words so I need to show him with my actions that I will no longer tolerate it. But I don't want to disobey Allah in the process if this is truly a sin. Any help would be much appreciated
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