Advice on relationship with a woman

Salaam. I wanted to post and ask this to you all because you guys seems like a great reddit group that gives really quality advice. I'll write a TLDR if my post goes too long. But just looking for advice/words of encouragement/etc. Personally I haven't been able to talk to anyone about this so I also need a place to vent/get this out of my system/talk to somone.

TLDR: Fell in love with a woman, after 5 months of talking online, we finally decided even though we want to marry each other, our ages (23/19) is too early and we need to focus on our own Deen and priorities first and then when the time comes then we can take next steps. But until then maintain NO relationship, like no talking and all that, except for like if she needs advice from me (im in grad school shes also tryna get into grad school), but even then the way we will talk is like how any good Muslim man woman would talk and interact.

So im in grad school, shes in college. We both met via a mentor-mentee organization in her college (i mentor students). I was paired with her. Over the past 5 months we got to know each other very very very well and eventually she said she would want to marry me and yes I also wanted to marry her. Look I know what you all thinking. Brother u never met her in person. What kind of love story is that. And I know I know what u mean. But I really love her and she also really loves me. We get each other's insecurities and we are honestly the same person. So last week, we discussed how the way we were talking was haraam and not right. We then talked about how we can stay in contact with each other but NOT overstep into "relationship". Yesterday we decided we should only talk very minimum and only on things that are needed such as if she needs advice for grad school and NOTHING else. While I know we both were a little heartbroken, we both know how important it is to put Allah and Islam above any relationship etc. We both decided that if in the future I still want to marry her, i should talk to her dad and go from there. I agree with her. Just for now though, we really can't do that because first of all shes very young and second of all we indian/paki so def our fams gonna give some issues but thats why we should be in an older more mature position before we say anything. I started reading Quran more and reading namaz more and pray more and more from my heart. I feel aH better and less heartbroken and sad (we both cry our eyes out when we cant talk to each other or take this kind of "break"). But I wanted to post this on here and simply ask ur honest opinions. Thank you in advance. JZK.

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