Arriving at the marriageable age is fascinating. You see your friends getting married and embark on the vital journey of their life.
Witnessing some of your friends getting married to the love of their lives is beautiful. At the same time, witnessing others facing an uphill task to get the love of their lives is a harrowing experience.
I have witnessed both from a very close range.
One is pure bliss another is pure agony.
What depresses you most is the fact that the maximum number of people get rejected for something they have no control over- their lineage, their social status, their financial status.
You can change your financial status but you cannot get rich overnight, you cannot command powerful social standing in a matter of days. And most importantly while growing up and falling in love, you are unaware of these things.
There this verse in Surah Hadid verse 20 which translates to “KNOW THAT THE LIFE OF THIS WORLD IS BUT AMUSEMENT AND DIVERSION AND ADORNMENT AND BOASTING TO ONE ANOTHER AND COMPETITION IN INCREASE OF WEALTH AND CHILDREN….”
As postulated by Dr. Israr Ahmed- on the outset this verse appears to be narrating about the vagaries of life but upon close perusal, you realize that this verse is narrating different stages of your life- right from your birth until old age.
As a baby, everything is a means of amusement. You are relaxed, you get amused by anything and everything.
As you get a little older, you just want the time to pass by, you seek diversions to kill time.
Then as you enter your teens you become self-aware, you start to adorn yourself, you hit the gym, and start using beauty products.
As you enter your twenties, you boast about your degree and paycheck.
When you enter the late thirties of your life, you want to earn more and more money planning an early retirement.
A little later in your life, you want your children to excel doesn’t matter how. You begin to see your children as vessels of achieving your unfulfilled dreams, trophies that you can display in gatherings.
The moment your children start to become a source of materialistic gratification instead of comfort for you, you are touting them out.
Did he get into that University?
Did he end up succeeding academically and financially better than all his peers?
Did he land in such and such company and is earning this much?
You want them to conform to your world view rather than them having their own and in the process of imposing your ideology over them, you end up suffocating them. You end up driving them to suicides and drugs. And all this while you presume that whatever you are doing is for the better future of your child.
This is exactly what Quran is warning you about- you start entering a rat race where you put your own child as an unwilling participant because the world must know that it is your child!
When you start measuring the worth of people by their degrees, by their genes, by their paychecks, by their social standing you have gone too far from acceptable deviation.
As Prophet ﷺ said, there are some people from this nation who are dishevelled, lack money, and social status, but if they take an oath by God, God will surely honour that oath.
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