Asalaamualaikum brothers and sisters hope you are well. I’m a 19 year old living in the West. My libido is crazy high and maybe some of you could relate to this. I just wanted to rant about a few things.
Let’s start with a very common problem. Yep you have guessed it, masturbation. Halal? Haram? Makruh? Lesser of the two evils (Zina)? I have heard all of these researching the topic as a horny 15 year old. Personally, I incline more towards the haram side simply because if it’s haram to look at someone of the opposite sex lustfully, then this act must be haram. It’s logical. But you see it’s easier said than done. It’s easy to say something is haram but resisting the sin is difficult. No brother joining r/nofap does not help, it may help others but it doesn’t help me! I see r/nofap as a support group which is good but people quit habits in different ways and that’s what many people don’t seem to understand. Same goes for lifting weights. While I enjoy lifting it doesn’t make a difference!
Alhamdulillah during this beautiful month I have been free from this sin. But I don’t feel good about it. You know when your free from a bad habit and you just feel nothing has changed. Life just feels bland and grey. Will it get better? If you have experience with going by for months or maybe years without this sin please do comment and tell me about your experience. If you haven’t, please don’t give me advice, focus on yourself before you advise others. The hypocrisy of some angers me.
And of course as you know if you live in the West, marriage isn’t a possibility for some because you are expected to be a working man who is financially stable to provide for his wife. Now don’t get me wrong this is good but do you know how many years it could take to become financially stable? What’s wrong with getting married early? Oh and by the way this is a cultural issue. Some parents are happy to get their kids married while they are at university/college, but some don’t seem to understand our hyper sexualised society and the trials we as young people experience. Alhamdulillah my parents have always have been good to me and I respect and love them but if I was to mention marriage I know for a fact they would hesitate. That’s why the way I have always seen it is ‘you get married when you finish your studies and find a job’, there is no way around it and it’s incredibly frustrating.
And that’s my rant over please leave any advice or comments. I hate spreading negativity I’m sorry but I had nobody else to tell this to. May Allah help you on the Straight Path and find you all a great spouse:)
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