Just a Rant

Salam,

I'm just here to spill my feelings about double standards in my home. For context, I'm currently a university student with a full courseload, and have moved to online school, so I'm always home. And I'm a girl. It'll make sense in a bit.

I want to preface that I have 2 sister (5 and 17), and one brother (17). My brother leads taraweeh with us at night, he does not do his school work, he wakes up around 5-8 pm, whereas me and my sister do all our schoolwork, do as many chores as we can, are always up before 10am, are fasting, and make iftar (in front of a hot stove). And this is hard, it's very hard. My parents made sure I got into the top university of the country, for which I am so grateful, but it feels like my education doesn't mean anything. They've yelled at me to clean/cook while I've been in lecture, writing papers, and doing homework for my classes. I go to a university where getting a C is a good mark, so I'm trying my best to keep up my grades, and go to law school.

I want to clarify a few things here: I understand taraweeh is hard, but my brother does about 5 ayats per rakah. Secondly, I understand he needs time in the day (4 hours) to practice, but I do not understand how this practicing happens when he wakes up between 5-8 pm and iftar starts around 8:40ish. He wastes 2 hours when he wakes up "early" (ie. 6pm), so he isn't always practicing. Now, I am not saying I will not do housework or cook, but I am saying that I personally believe that this is a job for everyone. I am saying that I, like my brother and father, am also fasting, and I have 5 university courses. My brother, on the other hand, does not attend his classes (he only has 4 hours of classes a week), or do his assignments.

I'm just frustrated because I know this isn't what Islam is, and that it's cultural. I tried speaking up to my mom, telling her that it isn't fair to expect me to get straight As and not actually give me that chance. It also isn't fair to expect a 5 year old to do the amount of work her 17 year old brother should be doing.

And, before you say my mother and father sacrificed a lot for me, I KNOW that. I am trying to put their sacrifices to good use by getting good grades, a meaningful educational experience, and a career in law, something I genuinely want. My point, however, remains that the workload in the house should be evenly spread out because it's a job for EVERYONE, and our educations, goals, dreams, and ambitions are all equal.

My rant is over.

Salam.

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