to start off, I'm an 18F living in the US. I just started college this year, and I was born and raised in a muslim household. growing up, I really enjoyed my childhood and loved islam. however when I was in 3rd grade, my dad forced me to wear the hijab. I've been wearing it since. I was too young to mind but as I got older, islamphobia was really starting up and it made me feel bad about myself. I also started noticing in middle school/high school how girls went out with friends, had phones, social media, and a healthy balance between work and social lives. I wanted that too. but from a young age my dad said "no, girls having phones is bad" or "girls going out alone is bad," "having social media is bad." my dad is a strict Palestinian... he reeeeaaallly rules with an iron fist. I mean I can't go out with friends because I'm simply a woman, I "need a mahram" or I can't drive "bc Palestinian girls don't drive in our family". I have to wear a dress for modesty, and yea... that was forced on me too. every time I ask to do something, my dad always says "Palestinian girls don't ________" this literally made me start comparing myself to other pali girls around me. there's a Palestinian girl who we'll call R. She drives and she has her own car, she can go out with friends and she wears pants and it still looks modest. I get jealous and suffocated. sometimes I wish I belonged in her family instead. also, today, my father and I were talking about marriage and he said "a woman is nothing without a husband." and I felt really hopeless because it was as if I needed a man to have worth. I was telling him that a father cannot force his daughter to marry and he said "I can force you to do anything, kids must be obedient. the sheikh will ask for a woman's consent but only good girls allow their fathers to give their consent for them." and idk, I felt panicked because what if I do find someone I really love and want to marry? and what if he refuses and forces me to be with someone else? I honestly felt sad because I thought islam gives you rights to live your own life. I thought it's okay to see friends and have a balance too. and I'm pretty sure we can't be forced to wear the hijab or abaya/dress. parents are supposed to guide you, not dictate you.
are there any Hadiths to show my father what rights I have?
also, I posted this on the hijabi subreddit and many of the comments tell me to leave. does islam allow this?
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