Assalamu Alaikum dear brothers and sisters,
This question that I have mainly originated from the current dilemma I have been facing in the process of finding a spouse for myself having reached the point where marriage is incumbent on me.
The dilemma that would be: is it morally wrong for me to want to prefer someone who has been pious and steadfast in their religion all their life over someone who used to be sinful but then repented and now have come back to the right path?
So for example, say I am looking for a husband and my primary criteria is to seek the one who is the most religiously-commited, as encouraged by the Holy Prophet (P.B.U.H), based on my limited knowledge. And two men approach for my hand, one who has been pious and religously-commited their whole life and the other one who was misguided and performed many misdeeds but then saw the way and repented and is now the same level of steadfast in their religion. Assuming other factors aren't an issue such as compatibility etc., and that both of them would treat me equally well, would it be unfair for me to prefer the first suitor even though both of them are the same level of religiously-commited now?
Obviously we should not hold someone's past mistakes against them and we know that once a person has truly repented Allah (S.W.T) forgives their sins and we should respect them as someone who never sinned. But we also know that Allah (S.W.T) has created different levels of Jannah for us and assigns them based on how good we were in this life.
So with that in mind, would it not be correct to consider the one who was good their whole life and actively refrained from evil and in turn did more good deeds to be the more pious of the two and so choose them if piety is the most important factor I am looking for in a husband?
Jazak Allahu Khayran for your replies.
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