Divorce

Dear fellow Muslims,

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Alhamdullah I am forever greateful to be a muslim. I have been in an abusive relationship for 6 years. These past six years I have endured a great amount of mental and physical abuse. I was scared to tell my family, because I felt ashamed that my marriage was failing and did not want put shame on my father. When my parents found out they talked to him after my request to give another chance. 6 months later, the abuse has continued and he tried choked me. When I called them the next morning, they travelled the very same day and came to pick me up. They said, my child in Islam this abuse is not allowed. This man is not worthy to be a husband or father. My whole body was sore. They said, our culture is maybe not always right but Allah is good. Sometimes, especially with arranged marriage, you don't know how someone is. They told me to keep my head up and never feel one bit of shame, but that my ex should feel ashamed.

I know many women endure abuse due to our cultural stigma. I still have to face "family and friends" and mention the divorce. I am not looking forward to it but 10000 times Alhamdullah for having such great parents that support me.

As long as I have Allah and my parents, I feel blessed and I will never go back to the man that abused the body and mind that Allah had given me. I am writing this to let woman know that Allah does not want you to be abused. I never sought divorce because I thought divorce is bad and I should be quiet. I never ever encourage divorce. But if after six years and many talks with the family he continues the abuse, I think it is more haram to allow abuse to the body Allah has granted us.

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