Hello there:
I am in my mid 20s now and I am originally from the middle east. To talk about this story I will need to start from the start. My dad was studying overseas when we were young and my mom raised us until we were 6, then my dad came back. My dad used to beat me if I get bad grades and had me in a private school. Every time I got bad grades he just beats me and he uses the excuse "that he is paying for my education" and so on and that I needed to be a good son and get 100% and be a doctor (I used to get 88% even while studying as much as I can). When I was 8 years old and watching t.v sometimes my dad has a bad day from work and just beats me randomly and blames it on me not studying. He wants me to study 24/7 and I was never able to please him even when I try to do so. He treats me like a slave and I usually do whatever he wants me to do. I was an obedient son and never rebelled against my dad because he told me islam tells us that I need to follow my father and always uses specific surras and ahadeeth to say so. My dad beat me when I was in 9th grade because I got 99% and not 100% and broke a wooden chair on me and my arm was broken/ damaged (I am still having trouble from what he did to my arm after many years). During 11th grade he promised that he would get me a playstation if I did good in school and he promised this maybe 30 times in the past and I got a very high GPA 3.95 and he beat me even though he said I could play games during the summer if I got a good GPA. My dad never delivered on his promises not once and several times I wanted to kill myself, but didn't do so because I was too afraid. I have prayed for God to help me and cried since I was 7 and now I am in my mid 20s. I must say that I no longer believe much in religion after those many years, but still believe in God. When my dad taught me how to drive he used to beat me with any mistake and he tells me to turn at the last moment and laughs at me. If I drove badly while he was teaching me we used to go to the desert and he beats me with his fists and slaps me around and kicks me. Currently I am away (not in the country) studying for university and when I go back I don't want to go back to my family (mostly father). I have no trouble with my mother since she has helped me many times financially and I think she is trapped like me
Is this halal or haram? My dad uses this "اطيعوا ولي الامر" to tell me that I need to follow him and I read 20 translations and it doesn't mean what he says. He tells me I will go to hell if I don't listen to him or my mother. What can I do here? What does religion tell me to do here? Is there any ayya or surrah that will help me? What should I do?
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