Edit: now that I read this there were many things left out because I want sure what exactly was said. And I am not sure how to put it down
Edit if this post is not for this Reddit plz remove
Summary Dad n mom tried to talk about religion because they noticed my wifes interest was wanning but ended up somehow dissing my wife's parents and indirectly telling her they would disown grandson if he ever became non Muslim resulting in explosive incoherent shouting match.
If you do end up reading the whole thing ask me anything and I will try to beat answer your questions.
Background
Muslim family in Canada. Moved here 15 years ago
Wife is Chinese. When I met her she had been Revert for 6 months. We got married 2 years later
We met liked each other for married with many problems from my side of the family cause she hadn't been muslim long enough.
We have a son now who is 16 months old.
So she has been falling behind in her Islamic studies. I attributed it to her work stress and having a kid and also because the environment in the house has not been the greatest
Today my father suddenly asked her if she was still interested in being Muslim because they could feel her interest wanning.
My parents asked her what her thoughts were. And she started talking about how she felt that they were too strict and how she was raised by her parents to think on her own and figure out what things mean to her. She said that she trusts her instincts and that she will get there albeit slower than what she had first assumed.
My Dad agreed with it but then kept mention how it's been 4 years and she hasn't reached where she should be. Anyhow after a few mins the conversation went towards my Dad talking about the importance on praying and how she needs to forget what her parents taught her and start learning how we live and do things. My wife replied that her parents way of life will always play a role in shaping ideas in her life to which my mother sarcastically said " you parents are the greatest"
And if that wasnt enough DaD said this to my wife " you are taking care of the next generation of my family and if grandson doesn't become Muslim he is not of my generation" and that was her tipping point.
She out of the blue asked them.what happens if my son starts asking questions about other religions and despite all our efforts eventually leaves Islam. They vehemently and loudly replied he will not have a choice. And if he does we will have no relation with him.
After this the whole conversation turned into an incoherent shouting match with it ending by everyone going their way. Mostly cuz my son started getting distressed.
I was more or less quite during this because me n my partner already were having a civil discussion about this situation and did not see this convo going this way.
Update: wife says she will apologise for shouting at them but she is going to make it clear that she will learn Islam in her own way and teach out son in the best way she can at the same time she will not come in the way of them teaching him Islam unless they make it in a negative way( like using scare tactics)
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