Rules of talking to a potential spouse and the opposite sex in general?

Salaam,

I'm in a bit of a dilemma. I'm in college and so is this muslim girl I'm talking to. We hang out almost every week, sometimes with her sister too or sometimes by ourselves (dinner, movie, walking around. never just us in a room). The problem is, while we both have marriage in our mind, we aren't planning on getting married for a few years (I don't mean to each other, I mean in general). We both still have a lot of school to go through. We figured one day we would just enter a relationship together (we aren't physical) and then eventually engaged then married. However, we've both been feeling guilty lately and we talked about it yesterday, and we didn't fully realize how strict Islam is regarding this (part of us knew, but didn't wanna confront it. but now that we've talked about it, it's not like we'll just ignore the rules and accept the consequences of sin bc that could mean jahannam). So now, we're just friends. We talk less and we're both really sad but we know we're doing the right thing. My question is, is there anything she and I can do?

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While we are sad, we know that our intentions are good and that whatever is part of Allah's plan will happen (because it's not like we aren't trying and expecting something to happen).

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For example, are we allowed to just go out to lunch in a public place knowing we both like each other? Can I do the same with girls I'm not interested in (just friends) and hang out with them too? Are we allowed to text each other?

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Jazakallah Khair

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